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[Needing2vent]

I just need to vent, I don't know how to deal with anything anymore. It seems like it's always something going on and day by day it's sometimes hard and sometimes good. I'm always being told because I'm a mother that I'm not allowed a break because my kids are small. I'm not allowed to take time for myself because it's a no no. Sometimes I'm up sometimes I'm down, I'm crying and can't even explain why, I'm emotional and can't explain why. No one understands what I'm going through even when I'm trying desperately to talk and make them understand the pain that I'm feeling. I'm a great person, a great mom, I just want to find peace. It's bad enough with this pandemic you have to try not to lose your mind, but imagine a person dealing with mental health issues. How am I suppose to not lash out. I'm trying to understand my triggers and I'm trying to keep fighting but I'm so tired of feeling bad.

[JW621]

You can vent with me. Take a deep breath

[sunshine1211]

Everyone deserves a break…you’re human

[Mariaatl]

keep fighting don't give up even if No one understands you just cry and keep going one day at the time

[Missmo]

I want you to know that i am sending care your way! I know just how you feel and you are not alone. I know it feels you are..no one gets it…no one around you really does.. they dont! It makes it even harder when we struggle and have these expectations on us… We know inside how much we love our family and how important our relationships are we have the biggest hearts and we accomplish and do so much in spite of our pain inside

Our intentions are pure and we are stronger than people know or realize

You will not break because you are a mom

You are right we arent allowed to break

Even tho sometimes it feels like we cant come up for air

Our family may think its no big deal and we learn to keep it mostly inside so as not to get negative feedback … or feedback where people say… cheer up think positive count your blessings … it hurts because we dont want to feel this way

I already know what a wonderful person you are and i know you wont give up

But you need to be heard!

Its ok to want to be heard to have your pain validated and also know there are others also feeling this even tho most people dont talk about it

I struggle too and have found no support system with people around me… sadly most people have no idea what to do to support someone with depression as i am finding

I found a counselor who gets it and it feels good to have someone to listen to you …

It helps a little… its only an hour a week but its something

I hope you can find that at least

I am here to chat if you need someone

[Roxylox]

Nobody should be telling you you don't need a break. Mothers particularly need a break. That job can be overwhelming, l know because l became overwhelmed by parenting and housework among other factors 7 years ago.

I too am a good mother. Yet this is never acknowledged outside of my immediate family. My kids are now adult and they are pretty good.

7 years ago the whole burden of the daily grind and cycle of housework became too much for me. As l said there were other factors - a temporary thyroid prpblem being one.

I had to get fsmily help at home for a while.

I needed some time out. It is ridiculous people telling you you can't have a break You will be far better able to do your job as a mother if you take enough time for yourself.

As l recovered years ago, l sort of resumed old interests and developed a few new.

Believe me, you need ME time.

[gerrerd]

Try potentials unlimited online get the relaxation download, it will help you . Ray.

[Midori]

Who is telling you this garbage? To take care of a family, you have first to take care of yourself, particularly if you have mental health issues.

Must admit that Covid isn't helping.

30 years ago I was like you. 2 children under 4years and a husband who had recently suicided. I was a mess.

Look up my profile if you like,

Cheers, Midori

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This isnt encouraging or supportive. lf anything I just sense criticism and insensitivity towards someone who genuinely cares for their children but is clearly exhausted and in need of support.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Who says that moms can’t hurt or need alone time? Absolutely you do.! And probably more than the non-moms. I saw a video once where the mom wanted to get back into fitness, so everything she did, she included the young children and she made every day things into something active to keep her moving.