Dealing with anger and frustration

[Married1978]

Hey I'm Nancy. I am new and still trying to speak about being bipolar with anxiety and depression. Yesterday I kept getting impatient with my husband and I could feel it like a volcano ready to burst. My husband kept bothering me when all I wanted was a little break while he watched our grandbaby. He keeps interrupting when I just wanted to get away from the noise. The TV was loud and all of the noise sent my anxiety through the roof.

I mostly want to get this to hear of anyone else has experienced the same and how you handled it

[pink318]

Hi Nancy,

Thank you for sharing. It’s good that you shared with us. I hope it helps you to feel a bit better.

I have a sister who was diagnosed with anxiety and whenever she’s struggling with anger and frustration, she has someone she confides in. Also, gardening and her dogs are her therapy, it helps her to stay relaxed.

If you have a trusted friend that you can talk to, it would be great. Feel free to come back anytime and talk to us. I hope you will be comforted here.

You can also walk outdoors and breathe fresh air or play soothing music inside your room to help you relax. I hope you can find something that will work for you.

Please keep us posted. God bless.

[Married1978 in reply to pink318]

Thank you for your suggestions. It seems stepping out, away from the situation is best n. I wish I had better control over getting angry. I know it's a mood when I get that way. I think it will be good to have a place to vent and no one feels hurt or judgmental. We don't have any groups here to bounce things off.

[KJnOTT]

Managing depression and anxiety can feel like a rollercoster sometimes. I suggest you discuss a way to signal to your husband when you need some space and discuss how to put it into practice in a way that works for you both. In terms of sound, I suggest some bluetooth headphones your husband can use when watching tv - my mother goes through some similar times with my dad and the headphones work wonders. As pink318 suggests, figure out what techniques you can incorporate that help you best manage when you are struggling. Practice good self care, and be sure to nurture your marriage in a way that your husband can make his best contribution to support you. Blessings.

[Married1978 in reply to KJnOTT]

Thank you for the support. It really helps to know I'm not alone with the emotions if I can speak here

[Sambler]

Oh my god yes. I get so frustrated with my husband when he just won't stop talking even after I've gotten the point. He just keeps going and going until I finally shout something like "shut up already! I get it!!!" and then he gets mad at me. He is terrible at arguing as he won't let me speak my side, storms out in high dudgeon and makes it all my fault. Honestly, I swear he's picking a fight, and takes great satisfaction in making me cry. You're not the only one in this hellboat.

[Married1978 in reply to Sambler]

Yes the frustration of my husband not respecting my right to walk away for awhile when I am overwhelmed. I know he doesn't mean to be that way he just doesn't get it unless he needs a break. Thank you all for responding. It's nice to be heard, especially when others have experienced the same frustrationsMy husband is the only man I have ever loved. I know I put him through hell for 2 years while I figured out what was wrong with me. I was quite angry during a large part of my mania. But he stuck it out and I know not everyone would have. He is one of my many blessings and worthwhile to work on this also. Such a long list of the things out partners have to live with. Not to mention the hell we might be going thru at the time.