Guys I Just Can't

[Lefty_Epee]

It's currently 2:19 a.m. My roommate is heavily intoxicated and missing. I really can't do this. I'm 18. I shouldn't be doing this. I'm worried about him because we don't know whether he's in the building or out roaming the campus. I can't handle stress. Not like this. I already talked to security, they already swept my room, they have people looking for him. There's really nothing I can do at this point except worry.

[Swailee]

First calm down everything is going to be ok, second do both of you have iPhones if so use find my friend....if not then try to check their social media’s to see who/ where they where and after all that if you’re religious give it to your god and rest importantly you shouldn’t be doing this but it shows the good person you are but remember don’t worry yourself sick and you have support 😬

[Ceiling]

Hi Lefty, I saw your post. The thoughts which came up are that you are a good person and it’s not your responsibility to be your room mates surrogate parent. Obviously you have concerns for him because you do care. That amount of stress and drama though, should not be on your shoulders. I imagine this isn’t the first time he has been heavily intoxicated. You have your studies and own life to manage. Perhaps you could look at moving rooms but still maintain a friendship with him. In planes they tell people to put their own oxygen mask on first before helping others for a reason. Everyone has their own path to follow and lessons to learn. We have to put our interests first. That said, I hope they find your friend and that you can encourage him to get professional help on campus. Look after you.

[Shnookie]

Hi this is Shnookie. U have done all of the right things, I’m here 4 U. So sorry 😐 that U R going thru this. Do U see a therapist. Or R U on any meds to reduce anxiety. Has your roommate done something like this B4 please keep us in the loop. U also need to take care of yourself and your roommate needs to deal with his issues. U can contact me privately as well. Hugs 🤗 S

[Midori]

You can't be a surrogate parent for your roomie. It is his choice to get drunk and wander off, and not yours to be his safety net. Leave it with security. That is their job.