Dealing with severe depression

[artistgardener]

I am depressed. No appetite, unusual for me. Very down. I tried to talk to my husband about what was making me depressed and he just got angry and blew up. Getting angry and blowing up is a great way not to deal with stuff you don't want to deal with. Now I'm angry at him. He NEVER says a comforting word. The more I'm hurting the meaner he is to me. I feel horrible. More depressed than ever now. I was feeling just a little bit better before he blew up at me for talking about my depression. I'm older. I've been in this bad marriage a long time. No, I can't get out financially. I also have some health problems that would make it difficult to leave.

[Celtic27]

Hi there I'm sorry your husband I a total

[mvillarreal]

What, financially, is keeping you trapped in the relationship? Do you not make very much?

[crowningglory19]

I"m so sorry you are in this difficult marriage and dealing with depression on top of it! It's good you signed on here, it is a safer, better place to vent and share your sorrow with someone who actually cares and know how to react in a calmer more helpful way. This can be where you open up from now on. Blessings to you, dear. Some things that help in the midst of this to deal better with it all are the following. Altho they aren't a fix it all, they will help: Taking magnesium helps calm your mind body and spirit so a great multi vitamin with extra mag would be great. Ginseng is great to get rid of sticky negative thoughts that loop too. Give your body what it needs, as a base for healing. Also, do you go to a counselor? If you can't afford it many churches offer it free. Walks are very good too, if you can, or just getting outside in the sun, soaking it up for vit. D which is a mood enhancer. Sitting on the ground or standing barefoot will get you grounded again too, it is science, not new age. Push negative feelings away with your hands and breathe in deep peace and tranquility. Face any past hurts and envision them with a better outcome, heal before moving on. You are strong, you will get thru this!

[artistgardener in reply to crowningglory19]

Thank you. Your response is very helpful. I will take your suggestions to heart. I appreciate you. Take care, Michele

[Nothing_but_books in reply to crowningglory19]

You mentioned a "great multi vitamin with extra mag " For instance?

[crowningglory19 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

Nature's Sunshine online is what I use, I use the super supplemental vitamin: I get this: naturessunshine.com/search/...

[Nothing_but_books in reply to crowningglory19]

Thanks!

[mauv]

Hi I have been in a marriage where amy husband used my depressions against me. It took me years to realize the problem is him. I have to go to my councelor, my friends or talk to God. I am thankful for a strong faith. I have index cards of who I really am. A child of God, A loyal friend. A caring ,giving loving, intelligent person. Write who you really are. I am staying for financial reasons also and am old. My husband can’t deal with any emotional diseases. And yet I have long time depression and our daughter is developementally delayed and has anxiety and cognitive issues. We had a son who died from Muscular Dystrophy. We have one normal intelligent daughter and he focuses his time on her and l our. 2 granddaughters. This is a good place to get support. Do you have a councelor or girlfriends or family member to get support from ? How old are you? Any hobbies ?

[artistgardener in reply to mauv]

Hi Mauv, I turned 65 this summer. I have one great (the best ever) dear friend, named Janet. You could look the world over and never find such a wonderful friend. I had another dear friend, who died March 30 of this year with metastatic breast cancer. And yes, if I had the money, I would have been gone long ago. I have a small pup boarding business in my house, this is another reason I cannot leave. I have to have the house or I will lose my business. I am also an acrylic artist. I had a show at a major gallery last September. Art doesn't pay much, especially during a pandemic! My husband can be angry and abusive. I'm sure my depression has a lot to do with being treated badly. My family is problematic and that's putting it mildly. I have a sister who lives about 3 hours away, but she is as cold as ice. No warmth or human feeling, condescending. A snob! Wouldn't lift a finger to help anyone and never has. You can't get love from a stone. Very wealthy! My other sister lives on the west coast and she has developmental problems. I never get to see her or even talk to her on the phone, because she just doesn't "get it together" to phone me back. I miss her! I am very close to two of my nieces. I am close to these nieces because they are good kind people. I am a good kind person. These are the family members who are good kind people. That' it! Thank you for talking to me. Take care, Love artistgardener

[mauv]

I am 76 yrs old. I was a registered nurse for 29 yrs. I always wanted to care for others since I was age 12. I love crafts of any kind. I did tolls painting quilting qults,knitting many scarves for friends, Afghans, and now crocheting Afghans for my granddaughters. We have 2 inside cats and a kitten. The kitten is 2 months old and has very sharp clawed. I have scrat Che’s to prove it. She is so frisky. She is so. cute and. brings me joy ! I also have a dog named Petie and an outside cat named Percy. The inside cats are Princess and Pearl. I play cards2 times a month with

my friends. I also go to a. ladies Bible Study once a week.I have 2 dear friends who are there for me. My best friend died 2 weeks ago at 62 fro

m pancreatic cancer. Cancer is a terrible disease!

[artistgardener in reply to mauv]

Hi Mauv, I am so sorry you lost your friend. It sounds like you have a very full life with many fun and challenging things to do. I'm more of a dog person than a cat person. I have a shih poo and a shih tzu. I also have a small breed dog boarding business, so I around lots of little dogs. They're sweet. I don't see a counselor, but perhaps I should.

[mauv in reply to artistgardener]

Seeing a councelor has benefited me. I couldn’t have made it in this marriage without a councelor. I Lao take antidepressents. Petie is 12 lbs, a silky terrier. We have always had a smal dog.

[artistgardener]

Do you worry that taking antidepressants will negatively impact your memory now that we're older? Do they help? I read that they help about as much as exercise. What do you take?

[ba7454117]

I’m sorry I’m in the same place