Unhelpful support people

I can't get any support from people I have met before such as my friends and family, in order to feel a lot better because of being judged and get criticised for speaking to them when they are busy. I still don't get understood for having depression and for the right reasons. I have every reason to be unhappy and upset but when it comes to talking about it. I would not be understood at all which I take personally. I am expected to accept their help and move on but anything they would tell me is nothing relevant to how I am feeling. For example saying to them I miss my Dad and feel so depressed. They would have a go at me for not being in a good mood and for not smiling. I would really get hostile and confrontational because of not being understood for anything. I may as well just get told off for being reasonable and sensible.

[secrets22]

Maybe John you are mixing with the wrong people if they are always critical of you..but i do believe you should be asking your GP for help,constant anxiety and depression is a bad combination. People should not be judging you..thats awful.

[Roxylox]

I find a lot of that with my family too I see that in lots pf posts on here

When I was put down and talked about my family difn't do anything to build up my self -esteem after. They didn't even seem very angry on my behalf.

They simply don't understand

[AnxiousCanadianChic]

People who don’t suffer from depression or anxiety don’t seem to be able to understand how you feel. I have people in my life who “just don’t think about it “ and stuff along those lines, they seem to think we are able to just flip a switch we will be all better. I mean if it was that easy, none of us would be here. Just try to find someone who fully understands you and supports you. I know it’s easier said than done, I also find it really hard to find/make real friends.. good friends. With Covid now it’s even harder. 🙁. I wish you the best of luck 🤞.

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Thanks

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Other people are not understanding how you are feeling and so you cannot get the support that you need. I think that is what you are saying Johnblue, is that right? If that is what is going on I understand why you would feel so frustrated and upset. Do you have a therapist that you can talk to? Sometimes they are better at understanding people’s feelings. They can also help you figure out different ways of talking to those that have difficulty understanding your feelings.

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That's right Cat Girl. I am looking to get long term help after I short term Cognitive therapy 12 times.

[Hidden]

I understand. I’m also looking for a therapist and am having a hard time. It seems everyone is looking for a therapist these days. I’m just going to have to keep looking. Try not to get too frustrated. People are often just not very good at paying attention when someone is speaking and so they don’t really hear what you are saying. It’s a rare quality in a person to have them be able to truly understand. I think the people here are pretty good at it. 😊

[Iwanttoliveagain1]

I finally woke up and saw that the support I had had nothing to do with my family and or friends. This realization made my mental crack burst open and I've been loosing parts of me since. It has caused me to push everyone and everything away. Even the people who I was fooled to think would always be there. I am on a new medication and am drug free. Have been for 3 months, and I get out of bed. But everything independent and everything I loved to do is gone.......I deprive myself of anything that gave me happiness and joy. Your not alone