What do I do at this point?

[Ilovepugs123]

My friend is still not getting in her head that I am busy during the week and that if she wants to hangout that she would have to bring me home after but she keeps asking me wanna come to my house and I said I can't stay the night, you would have to bring me home after we hangout and then she always says let's see or maybe or hmm let me think about it like if she's not gonna respect the fact that I can't stay at her house that's an issue plus like she barely asks as it is now but now shes asking me a lot again and it's just like if she doesn't believe me or my situation I am in and plus she thinks once I get my drivers licence that we would "Hangout" more but honestly I am not gonna be hanging out with her because I have a goal and I need to get a job to support my mom and I and she only thinks about herself and she starts a new job soon and shes already telling me the "Drama" at her new work when she hasnt even started yet. I hope her new "Job" can keep her busy but I honestly Doubt that plus I don't want to be in her new Work drama and she even works at her husband work but they have different shifts which are fine but if you're going to get jealous of every girl he talks to or anything like that you shouldn't be working at the same work with him or even be married to him, I don't know I think this is all crazy and I keep telling myself I am going to ignore her every time she asks or I am going to distance myself and I am honestly going to start distancing myself again because when I distance myself she barely asks for me to hang out but I just don't know what else to do I am busy now and shes not understanding my situation.

[Blueruth]

Boundaries and punctuation (which is a sort of boundary). I’m gasping for air. I would just say you can’t come over if you don’t trust her to drive you home. You don’t have end or pause the relationship though she could and then you know it isn’t a two way friendship. Just be nice and firm.

If she tries to convince you or “doesn’t take no” repeat that you are not able to come over with no long explanation. Repeating is a strategy to diffuse your thoughts and keep your boundaries. After a few times she has no choice but to accept that you can’t come over.

You don’t need to apologize or say anything about getting home… that just starts bargaining which leads to feeling like crap when she breaks her promise. This is self care. Hope that gives you something concrete.

[Ilovepugs123 in reply to Blueruth]

Thank you for your advice

[Veteran250]

Hi …..I agree with Blueruth, on the other hand you could ignore her altogether, she may then get the message…. Hoping you are otherwise ok.🙂🌹