Love

[Fruitsofspirit]

I noticed in myself and others with depression, we have a hard time loving ourselves. I'm trying to feel love for me. I always put others before me, but being at this point of time I ve had to put me first and aloud myself to love me as I do others. That it's OK. So how is everyone? I am trying to stay in side from the smoke, started to feel close in to much. Not much to do inside. Praying for uplifting day for all. Healing love

[EndUser13]

Negativity can too often lead to being stuck in a vicious cycle.

I've learned to live and judge my life by my own standards and it's helped immensely. On occasion I'll still get a hint of something negative that's been ingrained in me since childhood, being too hard on myself or pushing myself too much, but I'm the one who has to live with myself, so I try to live by my own standards and rules.

This means pushing myself to go outside, no matter how nervous or agoraphobic I feel or how gross and hot out it is. I miss you snow!!

[Fruitsofspirit in reply to EndUser13]

Agree. I was always felt I wouldn't be coming anything in my life. Ptsd of my growing up, I try hard to not give to those feelings and thoughts. I spend alot telling myself it's not true of me. Asking the Lord to help me see in me what he sees in me. Hugs and prayers

[DodgeDhanda]

Hello my old fruity , yes less of the old.

Ur so right in the fact we don't love ourselves much as we are attuned to the negativity that others send toward us on the sly. But we are worse than them as we actually tell ourselves that we are everything bad they say about us & worse still.

However we are all wrong & our souls & minds need to be woken up from this false slumber & realise that even if others hate us we are not them & we should love us first & those haters can go fudge themselves & at THAT precise moment we need to cut them out of our lives forever & not look back & put our lives in the middle & at the front at the same time. Love us 1st then those around us that deserve it & that's it I say & Fruity U go girl & keep loving u before the rest x

[Fruitsofspirit in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Lol so true I agree 100%

[hypercat54]

Well maybe one of the reasons we have depression is because we have been taught to be 'people pleasers'. Well done you for starting to attend to your own needs first.

[Fruitsofspirit in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you, it's not easy to put my self first. Love, hugs and prayers

[newbie1956]

Stay strong in your faith.💪Hugs & Prayers.

[Arkus]

You seem to have a good understanding of how to strengthen your mental health, learn to love oneself.Rather than just repeating a positive phrase to yourself, try to think of it this way. Each of us is a unique person and has a special gifts which no one else has, so comparing oneself to others isn't useful. This knowledge allows us to appreciate and be grateful for others gifts while realising that each of us has something unique and special to offer. Understanding this brings a sense of self worth which is grounded in reality and gives oneself confidence.

[Fruitsofspirit in reply to Arkus]

Thank you. Hugs and prayers

[Wantstobewell]

That’s interesting I’m depressed due to being a victim of assault and injustice so my perspective is different. I feel I’m a good person who with sincerity has tried to do what is right in my Gods eyes. I’ve often felt that the medical community doesn’t tell the whole truth about depression. I feel I don’t have a true organic depression yet if I get depressed it’s severe I can’t get out of bed I can’t watch tv or listen to music I need silence due to processing issue of depression I get extremely detached feel nothing , cry at random yet feel nothing.I hope that someday you will be able to see your strengths yet I’m not sure it will help depression. It’s brain wave changes that happen is my thinking perhaps it would help you to feel a little bit better about yourself to think of depression that way? I sort of depersonalize the illness and I feel that’s right do not take on societal expectation and don’t box yourself in

[Fruitsofspirit in reply to Wantstobewell]

I can understand what you are saying. I have to have some sounds around me so I don't feel so alone. Even with 3 other adults in the house. Tired of watching TV, reruns. How long have you been depressed? Me lots of years but long breaks in between. I use to sleep alot and live in my bedroom as my safe place then 2015 butt fire lost everything but it got me out of my room. Every day I do mornings and evenings mediation, some in between. This is the longest I stayed in my depression and anxiety and ptsd. I to was a victim from some one I care for dearly. Pray healing love and peace.

[Wondering_1]

I have a hard time telling myself that I'm worth it. In this world where it's the outwardly beautiful ones that are seen as special, get the promotion, or treated better. When you're not beautiful, even after laser treatment for acne scarring, you're not seen the same, treated the same or talked to like you matter. Sad, but true. Take it from me. I remind myself every day, I'm worth it. I was created this way and am blessed in other ways besides beauty.