Bad Day!

[Emel1]

Woke up feeling here we go again! Another day with no-one to talk to, feeling so alone, I try so hard but it's always the same....

[goldieoldie]

hi,its not a nice feeling to feel utterly alone and no one there to share your thoughts feelings will be replying to your last message ,I dont forget,as I know that feeling so well ,hopefully you can respond and please dont feel that your forgotten--this forum os very good ar giving advice and support.,hope you feel a little better ,the past 2 yrs has affected everyone with Covid adding to our everyday problems-and anxiety runs very high in making us feel worse ---we need to find asomething to make us feel a little better-I love This Morning ,plenty of interesting topics,,,,thats if you live in UK--dont know about America---hopefully your day will get brighter and better.😇

[Emel1 in reply to goldieoldie]

Thank you for being there, you are the only person who has taken time to respond, that means a lot to me. 🤗

[Rachmaninov2]

Hello Emel1, I’ve just seen your post with the lovely photo of a robin. Sorry you are feeling lonely, I spend as much time as I can taking photos of flowers and wildlife etc. Maybe you would be interested in taking photos more often. I like to look through mine, it always cheers me up. I hope you like this photo of a squirrel. 🙂🌸

Photo of a squirrel.

[Emel1]

Thank you for your reply and pic, I take quite a lot of pics as I do a lot of walking, I live in such a nice area, near the beach but also have river walks as there are two rivers flow into the sea where I live.It's just the solitude that gets to me sometimes with no-one to share with, no-one to wake up and say Good-morning to.

Unfortunately at the moment I cannot go out and about as I was in an accident a few weeks ago and this has left me in pain from chest injury and temporary sight impairment, so feeling a bit alone.

I do so appreciate your reply. I hope you are well.

[Rachmaninov2 in reply to Emel1]

You are very welcome. How wonderful to live near the rivers and the beach, it sounds lovely. You must have a lot of beautiful photos, could you post some more?

I can understand why you feel lonely at the moment, I have mobility problems and miss being able to interact with people in the normal way but I appreciate the ‘conversations’ I have on the HU forums, it makes a big difference to me.

I’m sorry about your accident and the pain you have, I hope you make a speedy recovery and can start to get out and about again. Very best wishes. 🙂🌈

[Emel1 in reply to Rachmaninov2]

Thank you! ☺

[samack]

I have the same post as you only it was yesterday. The aloneness is damning. All days are hard but some are nail bitingly painful. I feel a little better this morning. But things trigger at any point during the day. Hope you will feel some relief soon.

[Emel1]

Thanks for your concern samack, and for taking time to reply, it's so nice of you to do so. Sometimes the silence can be deafening. Hope things improve for you each day. I don't normally post a lot but read what others have to say and sometimes that helps. I just am not very good at being alone but not very good at asking for help either.

[Saffron_Spice]

Hi, I can relate to loneliness. I don't know if you are in the States but I have begun to call my local crisis line. It is for emotional distress, & the volunteers are happy to listen. I found my roommate dead 2 months ago & my loneliness & depression is almost tangible. The house can feel so agonizingly empty sometimes, so I call the crisis line & have someone to talk with for a little while. I know they are merging with the Suicide Crisis Lifeline soon, which is 800-273-8255, and is for people in emotional distress also, not just suicidal. I hope this tidbit helps.

Peace.

[Emel1 in reply to Saffron_Spice]

Thank you Saffron_Spice, it's nice to have everyone's support and for you to reply. I don't often post as find it so difficult, I try to be strong enough to deal with it but for some reason, not today. I live in Scotland so support is not the best, was attending counselling which stopped with pandemic. I then had a two weekly phone call from someone who was not familiar with my background or needs and therefore I just couldn't relate. I also have tried so many anti-depressants most of which only worked short term so GP gave up in end as was at a loss as what to try.I just sound like I'm being negative but honestly I never give up trying as I hope that one day I'll turn that corner.

So good of you to help.

[Saffron_Spice in reply to Emel1]

I understand the long road & ongoing struggle. There is so much strength in never giving up, as this part of our journey can make us so weary.

Best of luck, and remember you have support & love here. ✌💙

[b1b1b1]

I feel much the same. My husband died and it is horrible being alone much of the time, with no one to talk to or have dinner with. I don't exactly know the answer. I do know that covid as well as any other medical problems make it much worse. I also have some health anxiety which does not help. Can you find a therapist and possibly take antidepressants? I do take them and think they help a little.

If you can answer the replies you have received perhaps that will make you feel a little less alone.

[Emel1 in reply to b1b1b1]

Hi there, it must be such a void without your husband's company, I am sorry to hear that you feel alone much of the time too. I had a counsellor whom I saw regularly but all was cancelled with covid. I haven't taken anti-depressants in such a long time as none of them really had a long term result so GP was at a loss as to what to try. I think I could cope if it wasn't for the loneliness, just someone to talk with, interact with and just generally bounce things off. Just for someone to say Good-morning to would be nice. Thank you for saying Hello! 🙂

[b1b1b1]

Yes, I agree completely. Do you have any pets. I am thinking of getting a dog in hopes that that will help. x

[Emel1 in reply to b1b1b1]

I live in an apartment so not ideal to have a dog. Since the pandemic I walked a friend's dog daily for them. Unfortunately, if there was a day that I couldn't get to pick up dog, they would message me saying dog hadn't been for his walk. My friend was perfectly fit and able to walk dog, he just didn't, I stopped it in the end as just felt a bit used.

[Hidden]

Hi Emel1, I know that feeling. Wanting to connect with people. It’s been a lot harder reaching out to people during COVID.

[Emel1 in reply to Hidden]

I find it hard as my job was a customer services role in local government helping people out every day and meeting lots of people. I had to take early retirement for health reasons so went from lots of people interaction to being alone in my home. I can keep busy with hobbies and reading etc. but struggle with having no-one to talk with. It's so good to have everyone to talk to on here and I'm grateful for that but it would be nice to hear someone vocally and actually speak with them.

[Hidden]

That is a turn around going from talking to people nonstop daily to having no- one around. This is a good place to talk and let everything out.