Extra anxiety today.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Someone told me once, “you are at your best when you feel justified.” It took me a long time to figure out what that meant. When my mom or my kids need me I jump and run and get things done! Then stress about it later. Usually by then I’ve got it under control. When I’m worrying about things I can’t control or fix is when it really buries in me and I suffer. I have to be doing something. I have to feel needed and like I’m not worthless. I have always said, “idle minds breed negativity and doubt.” When I’m home alone I focus on caring for my dogs. I have to stay out of my head. Today I’m stressing. I have to meet my niece at doctor to get vaccine for college physical then I am going to help her finish moving. I’ve had custody of her a few years since her father passed away snd her mother proved unfit. Anyway I’m not happy about where she is going and her boyfriend is not doing what he’s supposed to do. He’s actually treating her poorly. It will be hard for me to be around him. Yet she chooses him and if I blow up at him it will push her farther to him. He’s not physical or mean necessarily. That’s borderline. He lost his job and she’s working her tail off to take care of them, move and everything and he keeps going fishing. It’s not right. If he’s not helping today it will be hard for me not to go off on him and I’m scared I’ll push my niece away. I guess I’ll feel better once I get active. I gotta start getting ready to go soon. Just worrying. I raised 2 boys. Not to be sexist but this is different somehow. I got her at 15. Dating etc is going to put me in the ground. Not used to this. My youngest son has not really dated. My oldest got a girl pregnant and was married at 18 and in the Army. I’m here for them and worry constantly about them. Why is it feeling different with my niece and so much harder? She’s smart, beautiful and been through more than most her age. Yet she made straight A’s this year, graduated and has been accepted to a great university starting in the fall. I’m afraid this boy is dragging her down. With what she’s been through she doesn’t deserve any more crap. I want to protect her. Gotta get moving before I let this swallow me whole! Being busy may help. If I can behave snd not lose my temper. Wish me luck.

[Hb2003]

I can relate to worrying about things I can’t control or fix And the feelings of it it’s not fun . I understand why your protective that’s a good thing ☺️.

[Roxylox]

Good luck. Sounds like you're a whirlwind. The very tone of your post seems hurried. I can understand your worry .

Our youngest girl will hopefully be going to college next year and I'm scared

[EndUser13]

Good luck! Hopefully, some good advice said in the right way may help... though we all fail so we can learn. For what it's worth I think boys are MUCH easier to raise!