Bad anxiety and depression. My partner doesn't know how to support me.

[L1994]

So my partner of 13 years has just told me he doesn't care how I feel and got frustrated with me which has made me feel so upset. I can't seem to make people realise how bad I feel. It's like people ignore symptoms you tell them you have on a daily basis. How much you try to express your day is a struggle no matter what you try to do to express these feelings and emotions You get fobbed off and don't feel listened to. But for my partner to make me feel like this after all I have been through with my anxiety and health wise has really got to me.

[hypercat54]

I understand how it must make you feel. It doesn't mean however that your partner doesn't love you but just that he doesn't understand. Have you tried telling him how to help you?

Otherwise I would do what Scrumbler suggested and don't try to explain it to him any more, otherwise you are just beating your head against a brick wall.

Do you have anyone in your life who would understand and be able to support you?

[crowningglory19]

I'm so sorry you are battling his lack of caring on top of your anxiety and depression. Was it something he said and truly acts out of a mean thing said in heat of moment? Sometimes guys don't know how to deal with emotions and things they can fix and show anger when they are afraid. But, if he is never there for you, that is not right. Some things that help get rid of anxiety a lot are the following: Taking a high quality magnesium like mag. malate or mag. glycinate calms the mind body and spirit and helps with sleep. Ginseng is great to get rid of sticky negative thoughts that loop too. Taking walks and mentally putting the things that bother you behind you as you move forward is helpful, emotionally too. Get some sun without sunscreen to get vitamin D, actually also a good multi vitamin daily helps a lot too. Touch the earth by laying, sitting, walking or standing barefoot will get you grounded again too and that balances emotions. Bless you dear, love yourself well and don't let your husband treat you wrong, they will get away with what we let them. <3

[cbgrace1980]

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Are you talking with a doctor or a counselor to make sure that you are in a healthy place? I think talking with them would give you the diving board to be able to learn how to communicate clearly with others, especially your partner. Hugs to you, you are definitely not alone.

[Saffron_Spice]

I know how it feels to realize one is not emotionally supported by one's partner. I am sorry you are having to deal with that on top of anxiety & depression. That is weighty, but you CAN get through this! I have had anxiety & depression for many years, and have learned that most people don't know how to respond or relate, empathize. I've had caring people listen to me try to explain how I'm feeling to them and their brilliant advice was, "Well just don't feel that way. Be happy instead"! I've realized that the best people to talk with are in a supportive forum like this, or a select portion of one's support group, and one-on-one therapy with a licensed therapist. It might even be a scenario where your partner could join you for a session and get some guidance on how to better support you if he would be willing. I highly recommend guided topic-driven meditation/visualization to really boost yourself, especially if you don't have anyone you can talk to. I used to feel like I did meditation wrong because I was so distracted during it, but now I know that happens to everyone and to keep doing it & gently recenter myself if I find my mind straying! Best of luck, please persevere and remember self-care! If you do this, your journey will surely provide answers that will help.