my lover is a workaholic, he always spends his time on his job. And when my anxiety comes he always disappears for the reason that there is so much work and more important things.
He always left me alone without giving me any strength to hug. In the evening he goes with his friends to the club without me beside him.
My anxiety was getting bigger, but I couldn't talk to him for fear that my relationship would be ruined with him
I am very angry but I also love him a lot. in the end I can only hate and blame myself.
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I think that your husband is not a good husband he should be taking care of you and not go hang out with his friends doesn’t seem like he cares about your mental health
I made a very conscience choice of being single & working on me for me by me & I can honestly say best thing I ever did. Now I am the happiest I've been since the kids were born.
A suggestion if I may ...... if you can't talk to him & he is always moving here , there & everywhere could be is that he keeps busy to ensure you both have a good life together or that he wants to get jobs done faster to get funds for whatever .
Anyhoo back to my suggestion . Write to him in a letter explaining everything & I mean everything about what & how things affect you & the way you feel about him & you need to know everything as honesty & communication is the most important thing in ANY relationship be it love , life or work. That way you've written & told him everything & then you will see what comes next for you both.
My partner can't hear anything from me, he always turns the facts around, which ends up blaming me and cornering me.I'm really confused in dealing with him
If he is cornering you then , it looks like he abusing you mentally. Easy for me to say this or that but you're the one suffering . Have you got family support ?
I can see why you are so anxious! It’s scary when you can’t speak freely with someone because they get angry. Then you have to tip toe around their feelings and that’s difficult. Actually, that’s a sign of domestic violence. You may want to look into emotional abuse and see if what you are experiencing is abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a good place to start. They have a website.
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