Panic? PTSD? Anxiety ?

[Grneyes4508]

I want to know if being verbally and mentally abused by a Narcissist can cause you to have PTSD. I feel like I'm exploding sometimes. Panic sets in I can't breath and I get angry and depressed and I can't function for awhile very often. As soon as he starts his crap.

[MaryR94]

I'm sure it can. I don't see why it wouldn't. If you don't mind my asking, are you currently in a relationship with said narcissist?

[Grneyes4508 in reply to MaryR94]

19 years and we have a child together. I'm not working due to her disability. She has epilepsy and I got let go from my job due to being in the hospital with her for 11 days

[MaryR94]

Oh, I'm so sorry. Would you say you're particularly happy in the relationship, for the most part?

[Grneyes4508]

No not really. It's a rollercoaster. Being with a narc is extremely challenging.

[Hidden in reply to Grneyes4508]

I hear ya.

[Lag1 in reply to Grneyes4508]

If you aren't happy and can identify his personality disorder and his abuse, the courts will as well. But you will have to maintain some sort of relationship with him because of your daughter. I am so sorry. My divorce was hell; it changed me.

[Hidden]

I'm still trying to figure that part out on my own..cause I have no support to help me through this. And I'm not saying financial support, I'm hoping for emotional support.

[Orangeblossom85 in reply to Hidden]

I feel same! I lack empathy and support. When I complain to my family, they say that I have what I wanted. I also do not have any strength to defend myself, nor to my exboyfriend, nor to family, coworkers or friends. Most of the time, I’m hiding at my bed.

[Shelfie9]

I find that I have always chosen narcs as partners and it took away everything of who I am over time. I've been single now for several years, I would love to be in a relationship but it needs to be the right one, I'm committed to that but I don't even know how to have a normal courtship with my past!!! I'm working on it and it gets easier but if you are in any position to leave I feel you should, it is terrifying but once you realize the burden you have been carrying with that narc on your back and it is gone... nothing really seems so bad, that is my experience.

[Orangeblossom85 in reply to Shelfie9]

Hi Shelfie! Have you ever had a chance to visit a site psychopath free? It’s about clauster b people and their bullying. I must tell you that the book helped me tremendously! I do recommend!

[gamster5]

Grneyes4508

From one green eyes to another.

Yes! I have been physically and mentally abused all of my life and has left me a terrible mess. My father really made me a wreck and felt like a low-life. He called me dumb shit all my life, never by name. I couldn't wait to get out of house and all I ever wanted was love. Well, that left me with 5 failed marriages all to the same type man. I have always said I was born with a "asshole magnet" and I don't know how I could pick one out of a million men, but I did. I was beaten and mentally abused until my last divorce and will never marry again. I have many physical and mental problems and at age 72 have never found any help. I have Agoraphobia on top of everything else. If someone knocks at the door, I almost hit the ceiling, and when the phone rings I just panic. Sudden noises make me jump out of my skin. I looked up PTSD on internet and found I have many of the same symptoms...I don't know what to do as have no money for help. Keeping myself in the jail I made for myself alone hasn't helped as I still respond to the noises and feelings, but I feel a bit safer and no one to hurt me anymore. I have had my dog for almost 17 years and they are the best love of all. Her body is starting to shut down and having a hard time accepting that she will be gone.

My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain. Don't have any answers except that the abuse you have gone through will give you PTSD and maybe other conditions and is not good for your physical body also. You are going through a war and need to either get some help or get rid of the "thing" you are married to. I always kept thinking in my marriages that more love towards that person would help (silly me)...a tiger never changes his stripes!!!!

My prayers go out to you and please let me know how you are doing. I am here for you no matter what. You are a beautiful, deserving person and you need to take the bull by the horns. I thought there was no way out until it was impossible to stay in my last marriage. He told me to leave because he couldn't handle my problems. Little did he know he was the problem and will never change. Even with all I have to deal with mentally, I am glad most of the insanity has stopped and I am not being hurt every day of my life.

Bring out the tiger inside you and know I am with you.

Hugs, Kathy (gamster5)

[Orangeblossom85 in reply to gamster5]

It’s an incredible message! Thank you! I hope you will find peace! I also wish that your precious dog will stay with you for the longest! All the best to you! I hug you with all my heart!

[gogogirl]

You deserve much better than that.

[Lag1]

I was married to a narcissist...you know what they say about ending a relationship with one? No contact-change your number, move, block their number. I, unfortunately, can't do those things because we co-parent 2 children. Recently, I have come to realize that he is my main trigger. I guess Radical Acceptance will become my new best friend when it comes to dealing with him.

[blossomgirl in reply to Lag1]

👋 focus on your kids as they will bring you joy

[Lag1 in reply to blossomgirl]

They do. We have been divorced since September 2009. I can't believe how much damage one relationship can cause. I have MDD, GAD and ADHD. My anxiety gets triggered just thinking about having a conversation with him; he can make me feel worthless in a split second. I worry about what damage he does to them but we get along, I guess. Our kids are awesome!

[Lag1]

Have you seen a therapist....not a marriage counselor; everything will fall on you. Anxiety and PTSD have such similar symptoms so you may be referred to a psychiatrist to get an official diagnosis but I am pretty sure that meds would be similar.

[blossomgirl in reply to Lag1]

I'm a divorcee as well.

[Lag1 in reply to blossomgirl]

I am trying to work things through with my therapist. I just try not to deal with him. I have to learn to set boundaries that are healthy. It is a hard road.

[blossomgirl in reply to Lag1]

Its a lonely road but mt kids keep me going

[Orangeblossom85]

I wish we would all have known that there love is just a mirage. I wish you all the best! I hope that we will be able to love and be loved one day and feel comforted! I hug you all!