Fear of the unknown

Do anyone ever have the fear of not know what’s next? I guess you can say it’s the fear of the unknown? Whether that be a job, relationship or just your life in general?

[Abdul88]

Yes it is one of the biggest fears that i have cause i like to control stuff in my life so the unknowns is a nightmare to me sometimes i can control it my anxiety with it other time it get too much

[Hidden in reply to Abdul88]

I am the same exact way! Sometimes it gets so bad to where I am just mentally and physically exhausted... sometimes I feel like I am just a broke down person with issues, makes me wonder who in their right mind would want to date someone like me with anxiety

[Abdul88 in reply to Hidden]

Well they better handel everything lol

[TangledUpIn]

I have that fear All The Time. I call it the "waiting for the other shoe to drop."

[Spooky99 in reply to TangledUpIn]

Lol I just said that on someone else’s post. I feel the same way!!! Deep inside , I’m very negative but put on a happy face

[Hidden]

I think we all have that fear. We all prefer to know what's coming. It's safer that way. Especially when we have been through trauma's we feel as though not knowing is a loss of control. And it is in a lot of ways. None of us can say what will happen tomorrow. But that is the point. We are not meant to live in the future we are meant to live right now. When we focus to much on the future we end up losing sight of what is in front of us. We end up losing ourselves to the what could be even though those things haven't happened yet and more than likely never will. The bad things we conjure are more often than not worse than what actually happens. We do this with everything We make a mistake and think the worst will happen and most people don't notice or they are not worried about it because they have other things going on. It's like when a person get's a pimple and they think it's all anyone can see but most don't even notice or care. We tend to hyper focus on what is to come because we are worried and trying to control an outcome. But we simply cannot. We must learn to live in the present where we are now so that we can be happy.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Very very well said!!! ❤️❤️

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Like you hit the nail on the head with that one!!

[moxond]

Being in the present moment sometimes we feel lost or that the end or a shadow of our former self the need to change perspective may seem dormant its the need to keep youre space and thoughts in line reflecting on the past finding new clarity of self awareness and what works to uplift that joyous feeling of self realise of a negative habit which doesn't serve aligning youre self with the true value you seek building on a positive sense of value with others maybe a interest awakening of fear and relentlessness taking small steps of achievement self care or empowering change my help what and how you feel removing the blocks through activation of meaniful pursuits or values to Goals self reflection lightening burdens which are dormant and don't serve youre higher purpose and interests be it Reading learning a process of mindfulness joy of Heart or activity joyous occasion etc their isa lot of free resources available mind movies are good for building motivation and setting new intentions available on line a learning curve

[dmt1121]

Not knowing causes me anxiety and fear of what might or might not happen, If decisions are left unresolved I will get depressed. I have a need to "chart a course", even if it is into an iceberg. I would rather get the bad news than not know.

For me, I think it started as a boy, when what happened in my life was unpredictable. Having a single mother who was an alcoholic and likely bipolar 1 (not diagnosed back then) left me by myself and with others or a mother who might be there for me or might not.

Over time, I have learned how to let go of control over certain aspects of my own life and to let go of trying to control others around me. Being a parent will do that, if you want everyone to survive. Even if it does get to be too much there are ways to bring yourself down "off the ledge". For me, it took a good therapist, meditation and a strong intent to be "okay" with not knowing and not controlling....but I think this pandemic has pushed everyone to and beyond their limits.

Take care and always keep trying.

[Hidden in reply to dmt1121]

How did you get into meditation? I’ve always wanted to try it, but don’t even know where to start.. if that makes sense

[dmt1121 in reply to Hidden]

Meditation is something I began many years ago but I have not been consistent about it. I began it to calm and ground myself. I gives me an intense feeling of being a part of the universe, gave me perspective. If done daily, it can help to manage stress and keep you centered.

Take deep breaths every couple of hours throughout the day helps too. If you search online for 5-minute breathing meditations, you will find many Youtube videos to choose from. One meditation I like is called "Be the Mountain". Clicking on this link or pasting it in your search bar should get you there youtu.be/LOT0ncic_mc(Not working as expected?) .... if not, just google "Be the Mountain" and "Psychology Today" and you should be able to find it. I find that one powerful in getting me centered, accepting who I am and fostering inner strength.

I hope that will help get you started. Good luck!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I've been using the "Waking up" app by Sam Harris. I've been using it for a couple of months. I can recommend it speaking as a beginner.

[JohnPB]

I can relate to the fear of unknown, especially since so many things are out of our control. For example, we do not know how long we will live and might not get a chance to do all things we want to do. I know I can exercise, eat well and do things like focus on healthy relationships to do what I can to live longer. I do not have control over things that might happen even if I take care of my health, such as an accident or terminal illness. What just came to my mind is the serenity prayer to deal with fear and anxiety. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

[Bigbrighteyes96]

I really dislike not knowing what is going to happen and uncertainty when it comes to elections and even sports games for example. I find the lack of certainty and control over the outcome very hard indeed.