A Guy Who Was Like A Brother To Me Left Me Today

[melvincrews2021]

I really don't know what to say....this seems to happen all the time and I'm sick of it. He exclaimed that his real life friends were forcing him to leave the app I speak to him on....what kind of friends is that?! This is why I'm done with the world and I'm done with society doing me like this....I always get left behind for dang reason. The world is already terrible.....and it's a nightmare with people like his friends and other terrible behind people. My mom has told me today that, "You shouldn't put your heart and soul into to everyone you meet because nobody is meant to stay with you forever". If this is the case what is the point in socializing with anyone?! Why the heck should I socialize and find someone who will be "the one" if there just gonna leave me anyway?! I've been thinking about just ending my life because what's the point? I'm always gonna get hurt....

[Hidden]

I hear you. I've had so many friends come and go, part of that is because I have moved around a lot to different areas of my state, and I can be an intense person and I happen to have bipolar disorder and there's still the stigma surrounding that, I am introverted too. And online connections can be fleeting. I don't have friends from high school or college like some people do, and I really don't like Facebook. There's too many people out there who are fair weather friends. Sometimes I think it's okay to go through a dry spell where you may not have any friends for awhile, I've been burned by certain people. Be a friend to yourself.

[Imaaan]

Sorry that you have experienced this, its never easy. Been there and currently am coming to terms with loosing a friend I had since 14. Its easier said than done but you are better off if someone chooses to walk away and truly it's their loss. Trying over and over to cultivate friendships and maintaining them can be crushing to the soul. Dont let it dampen your spirit because there are others out there in the world who will appreciate you.

[AK0424]

I understand. I put so much into people and get hurt easily... I chock it up as a character flaw. A few years back I met a guy who became "like a brother" in a few ways mainly because we got each other. About a year ago he changed. I can no longer tell him about how I'm feeling because he says "what's wrong now?!" And just makes me feel like a looser. I hope your day gets better. Just know you're not alone.

[melvincrews2021 in reply to AK0424]

It will get better...then some of other terrible crap will come along because that's how much life sucks ....

[Jay2O]

Hi Melvin. So sorry to hear that you have been let down again and you are now feeling the after effects of this. Life can play us some bad cards can`t it? Or at least it may seem to do. But what about the things you may have forgotten about? Or even the people we may take for granted - like family who still happen to be a part of our lives? Your mom for instance. Okay so perhaps she isn`t the same as a life partner as such but she still seems to be there and caring about you. And yes parents aren`t always perfect. They may get things wrong some of the time. If you have one good parent it is something to be grateful for. Break ups really do suck. Yes they can be incredibly painful. You wonder how/if you will get through it BUT YOU DO. You ALWAYS DO. They say you sometimes have to kiss a thousand princes or princesses before you actually meet `the one`! I personally believe this to be true. When someone like yourself puts so much effort into wanting a relationship to work and it doesn`t it can be so very hard to understand why such efforts aren`t returned. Why aren`t I good enough this time you say? Well YOU ARE. You just have never met the right people. You aren`t alone in loss. Loss comes about in several ways. People feel pained every other day due to some kind of loss. One day everything can seem so fine and then it`s like whoosh

suddenly we get knocked for six. We get the stuffing literally knocked out of us. And why? What did we do wrong? It`s just life. Life that happens. They say time is our healer. I think this is true. We may not like what is right now but each and every day that follows we grow in strength and we pick up the pieces. You have very much to give to this world. What would you achieve by giving up now? Write all of your feelings down. Get them out. Down on paper. Reassess. Talk to a good therapist if necessary. You are worth it. Sending you peace and strength. x

[Hidden]

Don't feel bad about your friend leaving, you will get many more. Your mother is very right. There are people who will be in your life for two two days and be gone. Be grateful that they were there when you needes them. I don't particularly have problems making friends but there are friends who are needed and friends who are wanted. There was a time where I needed a friend and I found one online but I already had other friends. The thing is, the ones I had could not help with what I needed at that time. When this one came from online, a huge difference made to my life but three weeks after that, there was no more friendship between us at all. I was not mad bcz I realised how much it helped me to have him bcz the ones I already have could not have helped me the way he did. This taught me a great lesson that you will have a friend who is needed for that particular time and then be gone and continue with your ones that you have because your particular problem is gone. So, don't dwell on it. Yes it is not easy to lose a friend bcz they always strike the heart but be cognizant of that fact and don't be discouraged about that.