I've always been the one to remember people's birthdays. I'll call, text, or say Happy Birthday to them. I've always made sure to make reminders of people's birthday because I know what it feels like when no one remembers it.
Lo and behold, today is my birthday and no one remembered. Only my parents said happy birthday. Not my co-workers, my friends, not even people I've known literally my entire life. So what do I do? I had a sinking feeling this would happen and it really did. Now I just feel like all the time and effort I've put into other people was just a waste of time. Like, why should I even bother anymore?
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I can completely relate. One thing I have learned is people prioritize things much differently nowadays. Birthdays and anniversaries are only remembered when on social media. I could have 40+ people wish me happy birthday online but see the same person face to face and they forget. I know it hurts but try not to let it break you down. Have you told any of your close friends how it makes you feel when they forget? They may not even realize that they’re kind of being jerks by not acknowledging something that is important to you.
Happy birthday by the way! You’re amazing and special and today you’re proud parents got to welcome another fantastic person into this world 🥰
Thank you very much, this was very nice to read. Idk if I can tell my friends, I'm not usually one to bring up something like this because I don't want to make others feel uncomfortable
I completely understand. I have trouble doing the same. What I do is I usually make a cheesy joke and that’s how I manage to feel out the situation as to whether they will respond well to what I really want to address. If they’re kind of jerks when I make the joke, then I know they may not be receptive to the way I feel about the situation. But if they make light of it too then they probably don’t even realize it’s a big deal to me. That’s when I tell them that the joke wasn’t actually a joke, I was kind of hurt by their actions or, in your case, lack thereof. It keeps the conversation light but also serious. That’s just my suggestion. You absolutely don’t have to do it if you’re not comfortable.
For the rest of today, I hope you do something to spoil yourself for your birthday. You deserve it ❤️
I'm sorry. Happy birthday!! Sometimes we do give more than we receive that's why you have to do it from the heart and not expect anything back. It's does suck though. Hope you have a good day anyway. The day really is about you and your parents. It a real special day for them too. Enjoy it.
I am the opposite to you, my friends give me cards but I do not make a lot of birthdays normally. Last year I was 70, we organised a birthday party, I asked a couple of friends, as it was in a club. There was a mix up and the members never got told. So I had a few friends and family. The party got started, my mother in law fell and broke her collar bone. I was worried about her so the party went a bit flat. She did not come back, but we found out how she was when my step daughter came back. My brother in law went to pick his mum up. I do not mean to be ungrateful but I do not want any more parties for me. Just a meal out with my family will do.
I used to go through that, so every year was another painful birthday. What I started to do was tell everybody "that today is my birthday"! It felt really, really good. There is no shame in telling on yourself. I'm going to be bold and tell you to do a do over tomorrow at work..just to practice for next year.
Again, I wish you a happy birthday, be kind to yourself.
I’m sorry you are feeling bad. I understand what it’s like to feel like you give so much of yourself and receive nothing in return. Try not to let it ruin your day. I agree with Cmarie12: be kind to yourself!
Happy Birthday! I'm so sorry no one other than your parents acknowledged your day. I know how much that hurts because I have often been in the same situation. HUGS!!!
Happy belated Birthday. I’m so sorry that you were forgotten on your special day. I can very much relate. When my ‘friends’ and peers were enjoying huge celebrations for their 50th bdays, mine came and went without any fanfare. Nothing from my 2 remaining (of 3) siblings, nothing from my husband, nada. I was devastated.
Had my parents been here I know that my day would have meant something.
I’ll be 52 in Jan. My 51st was essentially the same as 50.
Belated Happy birthday dear, I thank God for how far God has brought you. It's my prayer that God's blessings, favor and glory will continue increase in you life. I pray this year brings you breakthrough ,fulfillment and joy untold. May your desires and dreams come through this year. May you see the divine hand of God in your life. God gives you victory and rest in all that you do and encounter in this new year.
I can understand how you are feeling about how people seem not to remember your birthday. Its rather unfortunate some people may not care for birthdays like we do. Just keep being the good person who brightens peoples life on their birthdays even if they don't seem to do the same for you. Sending hugs your way.
Well happy belated birthday to you! Birthdays are great. That special day that is only for you, that separates you from anyone else.
When it comes to a special consideration, a moment of thought, a mindful consideration, is lost within a humble of life's expectations.
I can not talk or even express why they forgot but I have a feeling it would hurt them to know they did forget.
You could do something funny and meet at your favorite place and have a sign hanging from your neck saying "it's my belated birthday today" and they will let it mule over in their head and yuricka, they will share with you.
Apart of depression is sometimes the inability at that moment to allow a thought to pass by. You can do this. From this moment on decide to approach situations in a manner that you will not feel lost.
Thank you, everyone for the warm wishes. Although we may not know each other, your kind words of well wishes and encouragement are greatly appreciated and honestly made my day.
literally same. My birthday is in a week and Ive decided to turn off my phone for the whole day so I don’t expect any messages. Then when the next day comes I can look at my phone and be pleasantly surprised by the people who did say happy birthday. But when that person you REALLY wanted to reach out doesn’t, it sends your emotions spiraling out of control. Makes you feel like no one actually cares the way you do. It’s hell. It really is.
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