Slow in progress

[Morningglory79]

I’ve been having feelings of anger. I’m angry because even though I’m going through therapy and taking various medications, that I don’t think are even working anymore, I’m not making any progress. I feel like all of my efforts are useless. I’m EXHAUSTED. Lately my anxiety has been through the roof. I just want to feel , dare I say ,“normal “? I just can’t see an ending to all of this.

[Hb2003]

Be patient healing does take time we all heal through different paces and that is ok . ❤️☺️ Much love and support ❤️

[Hidden]

I feel the exact same. My therapist gave me hell for just saying I’m accepting to live with depression since nothing seems to work and it overpowers the medications and everything else.

[hypercat54]

Think how long it took you to develop anxiety so it will take quite a while before therapy starts helping. I remember feeling the same when I went until 1 day something made me stop in my tracks in amazement. It was a very small change. Small changes here and there add up to bigger ones so be patient, you will get there.

As for your meds they can take up to 6 weeks to get fully into your system. But if you feel they aren't working you might need an increase or a different type. I had to try 2 others until I found one which helped me. See your doctor and ask his/her advice or your therapist.

[gabrielle00 in reply to hypercat54]

what sort of small changes did you make?

[hypercat54 in reply to gabrielle00]

One of them was when walking past a group of people and they were laughing. My first thought wasn't they are laughing at me but what a great joke someone must have made. It's so long ago I don't remember the other ones.

Oh yes. A guy at work had been sexually harassing me and I was able to report him and was listened to.

[KinokoNekoKun]

Take it one day at a time. Live day by day. Small goals for bigger achievements later. You can do it!

[Inviswave]

Relax,be still,and be patient. Breath. I did that today during some trying times. I feel much better now.

[endofheartache1290]

I understand how you feel but it is important to be kind to yourself. Changing your mental state is difficult and takes time. One important thing to note is all the small things that you are doing to get better. That is still progress. Even if it seems unimportant you should be rewarding yourself for that as those are the moments that will lead to the biggest change. for me just brushing my teeth is difficult some days so I take the time to reward myself for even that small victory. In a way those are actually your biggest wins. When you are getting better and have more motivation you can do more and more things without as much struggle. To get started and stay consistent in that is extremely difficult and thus the small steps are incredibility important. Be kind to yourself, practice self compassion. And remember to acknowledge the small steps. Even if it's just being proud you went to therapy.

[Hidden]

I have struggled with anxiety, to varying degrees, for all of my 72 years. Like you, I have wished I could just feel better. I remember one time I was trying to explain this struggle to someone, and she said, "So you're worried about your worrying?" She obviously thought that was ridiculous, and I felt foolish.

But I have since realized that I am not a fool. I wish I had answered that person, "Yes, actually, I AM worried about my worrying. Anxiety can be crippling, and trying to overcome it is a legitimate endeavor."

I have also come to realize, however, that for me at least, anxiety is a part of me that cannot be "cured," only held in "remission" for a time. I've done therapy and meds, both of which helped a lot, but I've also had to come to terms with the fact that this is just part of who I am, and that I can't make it go away, only learn to recognize it for what it is and, if I'm lucky, suppress it enough to feel okay.

I'm not trying to discourage you. Since you recognize what's going on and are dealing with it, I'm confident you will work this out. I just don't want you to think there is some magic potion out there that will make it all go away.

And SOME level of anxiety can actually be a helpful thing. Nature has provided us with it to keep us wary and safe. We just need to moderate it. You will find that moderation. Just be patient. And be kind to yourself.

[Gentlespirit in reply to Hidden]

Yeah. I realize that i will always have depression flare ups. To stabilize or be in remission yet being careful of news time too because that can trigger me too. I have to have censors in place and have a low stimulus environment most of the time. Depression anxiety and ocd can flare up too. I didn't realize how insidious ocd can be too. I think I just lumped it with depression. It takes awhile to stabilize yet at other times it doesn't seem to bad. Getting cards and a statement that was encouraging and matter of fact believing in me helped. Love. Self talk reassurance. Tired yet realizing how vital self care is and if I'm overwhelmed then self care becomes a struggle too. Work with what you have and do what you can. Just do your best. I will too.

[DENVAL]

Check out Matthew Kelly on YouTube and give all your fears and anxiety to God.

Your life will be transformed...

[Gentlespirit]

I totally feel where your coming from and I'm exhausted. Too tired to keep struggling and feel like I'm going to collapse sometimes. I feel trapped. Not everyone recovers hello. Each day is a new day. There are small joys. I just remembered too tired hungry or depressed makes my health worse. Thats why pain management is important along with getting enough rest and eating properly. Do what you can do. Try reading things things that interest you. Do something new or something that interests you.