College life sucks.... Having a hard time making friends and connecting with others.

[Dreamer468]

So, college classes started today after a long pandemic break of 1 year. I thought things would turn out to be alright. But I was wrong. It was still awful as my last 12 academic years.

I've been dealing with depression, social anxiety and OCD for years. The thing is I don't have anything to talk with others, especially girls. Even in a group, I'm the one who remains silent. I don't have so much energy like others in my class. So I don't raise my voice to get attention. Even if I want, I don't have a lot of things to say. So, I just sit alone on corner while everyone talks to each other. I've been feeling like this most of my life. Following this, I feel more depressed and my remaining confidence drains out.

I've even talked with my therapist, but he said it will become better soon. I don't see any improvement. What makes even worse for me is that my parents are extroverts and have friends all over the world. So it alienates me even from my family. Why? What the fuck did i do to receive this life long torture.

I'm loosing my mind, everyone. I don't know how long will i be able to survive this way.....

[Hidden]

Sorry you are feeling like this. But there is nothing wrong with you. There are sites which helps people learn to be social if they have social enxiety. If you go to the internet, you will find it and they can help you step by step.

[Dreamer468 in reply to Hidden]

Do yo know any sites?? If you do, share it

[Hidden in reply to Dreamer468]

Let me double check and then I will send a chat to u

[metalminded]

Maybe you’re trying too hard or forcing yourself into something you want but aren’t ready yet?Focus on your work and don’t isolate yourself.

Try to work with others in your class on projects or ask to study together. Start small and don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

Listen to others conversations and see if you have something in common like music.

[lillyofthevalley37]

Hi sorry to hear about all this but someone on here mentioned the other day that you don't have to talk alot just look interested in what others are saying ? Hopefully you will be OK there will be others also feeling nervous and might want you for company so they aren't left on their own let us know how it is going ,