According to Scientific America, it’s natural for humans to care what other people think of them. But if you’re caring too much and you’re adjusting your life according to other people’s expectations, you will live a life of suffering. Whenever you are self-conscious, you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. When you are self-conscious, you are in trouble that shows symptoms that you don’t know who you are. Your very self-consciousness indicates that you have not come home yet.
First, a person who has a strong need to identify with something because they haven’t looked inside. They don’t know themselves, who they are, and therefore they cling on to external factors in order to define themselves. Without external identification, they would be lost. The problem is that any disturbance in the external world can cause internal turmoil. Second, if you have a strong sense of “I am this”, your ego will get hurt in case somebody tells you otherwise. Why on earth would you get offended or have negative emotions when somebody says that you are stupid? It is the ego, believing that it is in fact not stupid and desperately wanting everyone else to recognize that. Similarly, if your ego believes that you are a failure and somebody compliments you, you will get defensive. If there was no ego, if you managed to get rid of it, you would have no emotional reaction to any of this. That doesn’t mean being arrogant. If somebody tells you that you are stupid — who knows, maybe they’re right! Maybe you have really done something silly. It is alright to consciously and rationally engage with that idea, think about it. But there is no need to get identified or get hurt. Third, it is the worst consequence of ego if your ego has a sense of who you are, you might actually identify with it so much that you become exactly that. All identifications are useless, but the negative ones are perhaps the most harmful. If you believe that you are a failure, you will eventually behave in your everyday life as if you really were a failure. You will react to situations in a certain manner, you will not seek out opportunities, you will be anxious, you will radiate a certain energy around you. Eventually, even if nobody in their core can be a failure, you will create such environment where your illusion will be indistinguishable from reality.
To drop your ego fully, you need to stop dropping it and that the ultimate method to drop the ego completely is non-doing. Even if you’re on the spiritual path, if you work on yourself and you manage to dissolve a large part of your identifications, there is a good chance that through all these actions you’re still feeding your ego. You cannot actively get rid of your ego because whatever you do will establish a sense of identity, however noble or spiritual that identity is. The only way to become established in yourself is through the practise of yoga, through enhancing your awareness and meditation.An egoless state is a state where you are emotionally indifferent, where praise doesn’t excite joy and criticism doesn’t hurt you. The initial stage of dissolving your ego is to turn in and destroy your identifications with any external factors and characteristics. But in order to get rid of your ego completely, you will need to go a step further — you need to surrender.❤️
When we live in that false center than we become a slave to others opinions. Everyone has so many opinions and they change all the time it will be too much to handle. You will be miserable...When we find that egoless center, we gain our dignity and self respect. We dont bother with what the other thinks. It's none of our business. Thanks for posting🙏🙂❤☯️
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What touched most for me is we are so burden of being respectable and that is a false center state because it just painting the ego. It sure will satisfy everyone else but your own self. 🤗🌈🙏
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Yes, you always have to be polite to others when you're living in the false center. It's not genuine and its exhausting.
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It’s just exhausting. Just burn out in the end. Always bring it back to balance to your core of existence. Be diplomatic when needed.
Fascinating!, but not sure if I could surrender the ego. I also feel that I haven't got the patience for mindfulness. As I've often posted here, I regularly get deeply hurt by people's nasty comments.
If you don’t surrender and feed your ego then you will be in same vicious cycle. When we are subject to public opinions I.e. making posts, we have to practice mindfulness and know thyself. If people left nasty comments on your posts whether it’s true or not, you have a choice to have a comeback with the same intensity without anger. It can be fun 🤣😂
Fun perhaps, but it also might be a time to reflect on how to use your life energy in a manner which will have a positive impact.
Have you ever seen two or more go at it on a forum as though they are dueling and watch as the ego investment goes up with each cycle? Sometimes it seems endless and possibly, pointless.
Personally, I discovered that genuinely disengaging without the ego is quite freeing. I do wish for you true peace.
It’s true ☝️ I’ve seen two or more idiots went at it many many times in this forum and I have never been part of it 🤣🤣🤣 I love not intellectual but intelligent come back to get some enlightenment for myself ❤️ I don’t control life energy but let it flow where it counts 😉🙃. Have a good day 🙏
Sorry, Greatmindfulness, you misunderstood my post. What I was saying was that I regularly post here about the nasty comments I often overheard people in my actual neighbourhood where I live making about me, even though many of them don't know me well at all, referring to me as someone very odd, when I'm just pretty shy and a little awkward. Thankfully I have never gotten any nasty comments on HU, only support and kindness.
Hi Roxylox, so it is your neighbors, same concept with whether they are HU comments (not in your case). I’m glad you found great support here 🤗
Wonderful post! as always making us reflection. 😘🤗
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Aweeee thank you sweetie. How have you been? We miss you. Golden girls and boy miss you. 🤗😘
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I been everywhere to be honest and I miss u all too ill try to male more time for you guys like you guys have helped me so much !!❤️🧡💛
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Aweeee, I’m glad you’ve been everywhere as we’ve been locked down enough already 😅. You have so much bright spirit that you are a great addition to our golden group. We miss you dearly and can’t wait for future virtual parties 🤗❤️❤️❤️🥳🎉🎈
That's very aptly put. The ego is in control whether we realize it or not, and we are transfixed in our minds most of the day. Polarizing emotions are transient, and they will always come back to an equilibrium. Coming into the present is key, as the only constant in nature is inconstancy.
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Tired pf existing like this 
Worth in merely existing. 
Fighting for my existence 
What's the essence of our existence?
Co-exist with anxiety?
