I'm really scared

[carolk1955]

I've lived in a personal care home for the past 3 years. A few days ago they told us that the home was shutting down and we needed to find another place to live within 30 days. My first reaction was that I wanted to move back to my home town and have my own apartment. Now I'm finding out there are long waiting lists for the places I'd like. I have no family. I'm 65 years old and I don't like change and making alot of phone calls. But I have no choice. I'm really scared about having to do all this in less than 30 days. I'm basically being evicted and left homeless. I have to work with the Administrator who is nice enough but he still intimidates me. There is no easy way to do this and I'll probably have to choose a place without even seeing it. In the past I moved every few years without batting an eyelash. But that was when I had a good job and my parents to help me out financially. Now I'm on Social Security and I have to live in low income senior housing. I know I'm not going to be feeling relaxed and comfortable for quite a while.

[Sankissjuice]

How are you now, Carol? I was feeling overwhelmed with fears this morning too. Cried a lot. But I calmed down and did some mild exercise.

Can you take deep breaths and calm down? We imagine things to unfold a certain way in our heads and start getting afraid. Your new place may be even better than what it is now. Who knows?

Let us know how it goes at every step. One baby step at a time. And seek help.

[Hollick]

I'm sorry your feeling this discomfort, fear..it can be debilitating, hard to understand for those that don't..it sounds like your parents were a security blanket, as they are for many of us..one of the hardest things we go thru in life, is saying goodbye to them..I pray you find some solace, what ever, whoever that may be for you..have you got someone you can trust n talk with, we all know, it helps..try not to go thru this alone, surround yourself with positive energy, only! do what works for you, for the time being..you live your life, you pain sorrow, happiness, belief, no one else...don't know you, but praying for you n many that might be going thru a period of uncertainty, it is scary... take care of yourself, I'll try n do the same...

[Sprinkle1]

Search for help, look for United Way, they are Very Helpful, also try the Salvation Army. Look in your phone book in the front section, go thru the listings that offer help. Go on your computer post an add for looking for a place to live. Just make a list of numbers, tackle one a day, keep your spirits up, do you have friends you can ask for help? Somebody might be looking for a room mate, be choosy, especially with the virus in the air. Write to us we will give you love, support, encouragement, sending big Hugs......xxx ooo

[pink318]

Hi Carol,

I’m so sorry to hear that you are facing a tough situation. I pray that you will get the help you need and you will have the strength to do all the things you need to do.

Seek help. You can call your state and inquire about any benefits that you can avail. When my husband lost his job, we received medical and unemployment benefits from the state.

You can also ask help from friends or your local church. They might know some place that you can stay for the meantime while looking for a permanent place. Churches have many members, maybe one of them knows a place you can stay even for a few days.

Please stay strong. It may be hard but try to calm down. Cry when you need to. Crying helps me to feel better when I am emotionally overwhelmed. I hope it works for you as well. Keep sharing, we are here for you. I hope to hear from you again and let us know how you are doing. God bless.

[carolk1955]

Reading, Pennsylvania