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[gabrielle00]

my parents came to my college campus yesterday and took me out to dinner for valentines day. during the dinner they told me that they think I should take a gap semester. mind you, i have been enrolled in school for two weeks already but the deadline to declare a leave of absence and get a full rebate from the term is tomorrow. we talked about it for 3 more hours in the car. during that time, i was crying, feeling suicidal, and at times, feeling like a baby and that I should just suck it up and fight through the semester. however, now it’s the next morning and I feel like I should take a gap semester and focus on my health. the only thing is that i am living off campus and have a roommate. if I take a gap semester, my parents don’t want me living in new haven, they want me home. I’m just nervous about what my roommate will think&feel if i just up and left her. she thrives off of social connection and it’s not like she can find another roommate. ughhhh

[gabrielle00]

okay thank you. I decided to take a leave of absence

[socratesanne in reply to gabrielle00]

Can you cut back on the courses that are not uplifting for now and only stay with the ones that are exciting? Perhaps get a part time job to help out with the housing and ongoing roommate?

[pam4him]

Ok, so you answered yourself about the roommate. Explain the situation to her and perhaps try to pay an extra month to help her out. Take the break, it sounds like you need it and you have support. It's not uncommon to take breaks or less of a schedule. It took me 3 years to get my bachelor's going part-time year-round, but I did it. You may be able to take a full load after some self-care. Prayers for wisdom and guidance.

[gabrielle00 in reply to pam4him]

thank you. yea I took a break and told her that im leaving. now she isn't talking to me though lol. I haven't seen her in like two days though we've both been in the same house....

[pam4him in reply to gabrielle00]

She'll be ok. She's likely hurt and/or angry, but she'll be ok. This is not about her but about you taking care of you. Keep that as your focus. If she's still not speaking when it's time for you to leave, maybe leave her a letter thanking her for being a good roommate, that hopefully she will see difference this will make in you, and not be angry that you needed the break. Continued prayers for you.