Hi guys firstly hope everyone is safe and well or is still keeping themselves safe and well if anyone needs to talk about anything I’m always free for a DM so don’t hesitate to message.
As some of you who follow me already know I have an issue with an unwanted resident in my home. She is my brothers partner and moved in days after my late fathers funeral (very strange behaviour in my opinion) she lived in and the first lockdown came I wasn’t happy about but I thought what I am I do it’s a lockdown best just hunker down and deal with it little did I know through all if this she was breaking lockdown rules the entire time I made repeated complaints to it brother who just saw my complaints as an irritation which is a common theme in how he treats me during panic episodes usually with contempt and frustration. I’ve complained about how her living at my house had how it causes me stress to my brother for nearly a year every time he says he’ll do something nothing happens he gets upset at me for bringing it up says she’s here to distract him from my anxiety and panic cos it stresses him out and he “can’t handle me” which is the main crooks of why I’m writing this message why does my brother constantly talk about how my anxiety is a huge stress for him instead of being empathetic or am I lacking empathy to how much the situation upsets him? For lord context he pretty much blames me for everything that goes wrong in the house. His partner has lied about our finical situation to people talked about me behind my back to my mums partner told me my farther wouldn’t like me to be “upset” all the time after his passing and I have to “move on eventually” lied and told people she and my brother are selling our house and moving in together. And yet my brother does nothing about these indiscretions completely lets them slide mostly
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What a kind person you are...
This is heartbreakingly horrible. Your home. And you have to put up this nonsense? I don't know what to even say
The sadness to your situation is family should be there for YOU. It's your family . Your blood. If they don't have your back then who the hell does? They should be a sanctuary for you. I don't mean you or your particular family, in general more and more family members just to bother to nurture
Thank you for your reply again, thankfully my mother who lives in a separate household is very loving abs supportive so I’m not completely alone in that sense but your concern and empathy really are very touching
Thank you. If you need to talk, just send a reply. I've been there. I'm glad someone is helping you. I know it means a lot. Take care of yourself. It is first most important. Than others. It sounds selfish but if you don't, you cannot take care of others or what you want to accomplish in life. 😀 Let there be peace and happiness in your life. Wish you the best.🤗 🙌
Do you want to leave there? Do you think the police could help you by removing this person? Have you thought of pros and cons for handling this situation? Your family should be supportive but it doesn't always happen that way. I've been there. Some times you have to think of different options. What is best for you? Does your brother have the right to sell the house without you being involved or anyone else? You may have to stand up for yourself or just walk away, depending on the best option. They say, when one door closes another one will open. Just before you make your decision, take time to breath and relax , and/or meditate, to calm down before thinking what you want to do. Then you can make your decision. Your brother may have mixed emotions and not sure what he wants to do. I am sorry you are going through this. I have been there, too. Family doesn't always take your side. They are busy thinking what is best for them and not thinking or caring about you. That is because they have their own issues.
Hello thank you very much for your reply it means a lot. No I don’t to leave and the person in question is also planning on leaving soon apparently. My brother does help support us financially at the moment with being unable to work due to what ideal with but I’m working on getting better each day. He tries his best to support me but sometimes he feels overwhelmed and unable to cope and just feels very stressed by the whole situation and perhaps says things in a glib manner that he doesn’t actually mean. I also have support in lord of other areas from fridges and family so while I feel alone I’m very lucky to have the support I do have even if sometimes I may feel like it’s not there. But I’m deeply sorry you had to deal with such a horrible situation and if you ever need to chat my DM is open I hope you stay safe and well
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