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[Simonebella]

I don't know how to start this. I love the idea of a support group of people who are having a hard time. I feel so lost and alone in this path (life). I live in a country that has been locked down (government mandated) for most of the COVID adventure. I know everyone is trying to stay afloat with there own life and I feel I don't have a right to feel the way I do. I also feel selfish and stupid ugly old and just lost.

I worked hard to make a plan for this year and have it all mapped out only I can't seem to keep to a schedule to make it all happen. Honestly I am having trouble getting out of bed or just facing life. I do and push my self only to retreat and stay in my room all day and practice my true addiction the TV.

I guess I just want to feel I am not alone ( live alone with my amazing dog)

Anyone out there that feels the same? Kindly share your story if you want to.

[Hidden]

Hello, I know exactly how you feel. I have a hard time facing life every day, it feels like there is no point on living this way, every day is the same and life is vey dull. I don’t find pleasure on anything I do, but I still force myself to do it. I walk, run, read, meditate, pray among other things and nothing seems to help, I feel stuck.My therapist told me that when we are I this state of mind, our feelings occupy most of our time and attention that, we don’t feel like we are making any progress, but actually we are. We just need to be kind to ourselves and keep trying every day and eventually we will learn how to cope with this. I know it easier said than done, but everything is possible in live if we keep the faith.

You are not alone, don’t give up and remember that nothing in life is permanent.

[Simonebella in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Guacho that actually helps. I admire you for keep moving forward. I run away and shut out the world for a few days till I can handle it again. I send you much love and light and thank you so much for your advice

[Hidden in reply to Simonebella]

You are very welcome. Try to go for a walk today Simonbella, that will make you feel good.

[Simonebella in reply to Hidden]

That is good advice. Will do that maybe in the evening with less people thank you

[san_ray70 in reply to Simonebella]

When I feel down I try to think of some of my friends who are worse off. Peggy is 104 this Feb. normally she pays for and has a party. This year she is in an old peoples home, she feels lost, but she is safe, she kept falling and as she was alone they put her in the home. Another friend is dissabled looking after her father who has dementia. I thank God for my wonderful caring husband, without whom I would be lost. So count your blessings whatever they are, and reach out to somebody you know.

[Reader2021]

I’m the same way but live alone with no pets (allergic). You are definitely not alone.

[Simonebella in reply to Reader2021]

Thank you for reaching out. Yes my pup keeps me company I am very lucky. Yet still I do feel alone

[witherrae]

It seems like with the world in such an unstable state that it makes my depression and anxiety worse because I have no idea what to expect. Things are looking up with the new vaccines, hopefully in a few months we can start to regain a sense of normalcy.It sounds like you're practicing comparative suffering which is not helpful at all. It's also impossible to compare pain and suffering because everyone experiences it differently. The only thing that actually matters is how bad you're affected by your pain. You're obviously struggling right now and you, just like everyone else, deserve help too.

My therapist had me read The Mindful Path to Self Compassion by Christopher K. Germer. I want to chuck in in a dumpster when I'm cranky but it's actually super helpful. We need to be kind to ourselves, we deserve to be kind to ourselves. If anyone else was suffering the way you are right now I highly doubt you would tell them that they're selfish and stupid.

Also your dog is mad cute.

[Hidden]

Hello!!! These are very rough times for just about everyone. Try to get out of the house sometimes, don't be a prisoner in your house! I got out today and I'm feeling so much better than I was feeling cooped up.

[san_ray70]

Can you contact a help group on the phone, I work for one voluntarily. There are a few different ones, or you must have friends, if not family. Try the church, if they are not open they are online and offer help. If you want to message me you are welcome, I hope life gets better for you.