I've been dealing with depression for quite a while now.. All seemed to be fine for a short while but things aren't going well lately. I'm at a point where I have to satisfy everyone's wishes about my career but no one really cares about what I want. Although that's not my current problem, they do seem to control almost all the aspects of my life. Just when I'm about to take charge, they are pulling me back and making me feel worthless. As much as I tried to explain that I can manage and survive and pick up the responsibilities as I'm supposed to, all hell broke loose. And I can't really share what I feel.. Because, they just think I'm crazy or I'm just making an excuse to run away from my responsibilities.. I just feel like running away from these people and starting my life the way I want it to be.
Not sure where my life is heading tow... - Anxiety and Depre...
Not sure where my life is heading towards
Hello and welcome! That sounds really frustrating. We are here to listen if you'd like to vent. No judgement.
It's just that after all this time, I'm just frustrated with my family controlling all aspects of my life... Everytime I wanted to do something I want, they discourage, pull me back and make me choose a path I don't even like. This has been the case most of the times. I've been able to do certain things without their knowledge and those are the only ones I'm happy about... I really want to continue that.. But I can't abandon my family... Their lies the dilemma
Yep, I hear you. No one can make you do anything. What would you like to do?
Actually I'm currently pursuing my dream. I don't really have an income source.. Initially I wanted to do a job so that I can sustain myself and get away from the stressful environment that is my family. This was supported by everyone. As I got a job, everyone wants me to back down and stay with them and convincing me that me trying to stay independent is a bad idea. But the problem is I'm stressed out far more than I can handle here. Job is much less compared to this and I will have something that I can count on. So, that's what I wanted to do... Which is being opposed by my family as they think it hampers my career pursuit. But they aren't taking into account the stressful environment they're making me live in.
Really?! That's neat!
I understand the part about trying to hinder your independence because I went though it too. Maybe you can write them a letter where you give your concerns. What do you think?
You need to break away for your own wellbeing. Parents don't always understand this. They do in hindsight, though. For example, I am out of my parent's house and am married, but it took me awhile. My parents are happy for me now.
Hey there,This happens to the most of us. The one thing I have learnt in life is there is nothing as powerful as thoughts. In facts thoughts are our worse enemy or should I say the kind of thoughts we have are our worse enemy. We have been programmed to think in a particular way and when u think about it, we are slaves of this programation (I don't think the word exist, but I'm inventing it). If we are programed to rely on other people to approve of what we are to do, then we are slaves of certain people. I believe that if I am not against the law either of the the country that I live in or I am not against the laws of the kingdom of heaven which I blv in, no one should control how I should think. Don't allow people to tell u how to live ur life bcz without them u will feel lost. Know where u are going and don't rely on what other people think. If u up and leave to another place, the same is going to happen bcz the problem is internal. If they drag ur down and up, then u should do something about it and adopt new thoughts. If people rule ur thoughts, they will rule ur thoughts wherever u are. I know how hard it is to be strong, but in the world we live in it is the survival of the fittest and if u can't take charge, people will take charge of u. So, plz look into that. I am not trying to be hard on you forgive me, but I want u to be fair to yourself, at least we owe each other that.
Hey Steve, hang in there. People are tough. Loving people in the right measure is tough too. I can love my pet or my favorite shoes and they are there for me whenever I need them for comfort since I literally possess them. I should love my son and want the best for him without expectation that he always be there for me. Indeed, unconditional love would be that my son doesn't owe me anything and I never need expect a return. It sure seems like your family is struggling with the proper balance there.
The analogy of the oxygen masks in airplanes applies here. You've got to put your mask on before you can help the person next to you. I encourage you to continue you quest for separation (assuming you're of age, >18) but do it with grace and forgiveness--you're family's pattern of "profane love" runs deep and will be difficult to deal with emotionally for all involved.
Prayers bro.
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