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[HJam5880]

Well I told him this morning how I felt because he fell asleep last night before I got home (an hour drive plus had to stop for gas) and he took it better than I expected but now he is apologizing for last night and as much as I appreciate that, I don’t want him to think I had a bad time even though I told him that I had a great time. I’m afraid that I hurt his feelings.

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Try not to over think this anymore

You have told him he has took it fine which is great , I would now just leave it not keep wondering about all the "What If's " and enjoy his company and just see how it goes from here x

[Marshall64]

I think you handled the situation the best way you could and it had a good outcome. You told him that you had a good time. I don't think his feelings are hurt. I have been in his situation. He will live . Lol.

Your feelings are important too. He should respect that you need to be ready and be comfortable before taking the next step. He really doesn't have a choice if he cares about you. Pressuring or arguing would be counterproductive. I had learned that being respectful and being on "good behavior" went much farther in a relationship anyway. That brings out a win / win.

I was a broke college student at your age and my girlfriend and I would go to parks, explore new areas on a drive, see free concerts, go swimming somewhere and things like that which didn't cost much. Things are different now with Covid and it being winter (at least where I live). You can still go drive places though. We loved exploring new areas

[lillyofthevalley37]

Again I think a cake would be a very nice gesture at this point

[FriendlyDude]

I looked at your last two posts, and it makes sense. Relationships are a two-person experience, it’s like how in a team, the entire group is ready for something once everyone is ready. The quote “a team is only as strong as its weakest member” came to mind, but I wouldn’t say you’re weak. You are strong, and it was good of you to be honest about how you feel. Given the time frame you provided, I definitely see how it would feel fast.

You shared how you feel, and he shared how he feels. He willingly apologized, you said he took it better than you expected, and he didn’t go much further than you were ready that night. He must really care for you look for those things.

I’m sure he still had a good time don’t worry about that. You said in one of the other posts that he deals with depression and anxiety a lot, and as a guy who deals with that myself, just know that spending time with friends/loved ones is precious time. Those are the times I feel safe and more genuinely happy if he’s anything like me, he was happy to be with you, you did a great thing for him He was probably just apologizing for making you uncomfortable, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t enjoy that time with you Based on his reaction as you provided, he seems like a patient and kind person.

It sounds like both of you think you hurt the other’s feelings. It’s good that both of you are able to pay attention to the other and be mindful of your actions. I’d just say to talk about it more if you’re still concerned. And if you’re worried about hurting his feelings, ask him about it. Being able to have open, honest conversations is really important. Keep in mind that he already apologized, and you’ve reassured him you still had a great time. It sounds as though the situation is already resolved but if there’s anything that was left unresolved, I suggest you resolve it.

Don’t be afraid to voice your feelings, don’t get into something you’re not ready for just because someone else wants to.

I wish you the best

[HJam5880 in reply to FriendlyDude]

Thank you so much for your well thought out and very thoughtful reply! We have talked about it some more and your right he’s really apologizing for the uncomfortable situation. We had a great dinner tonight and he met my family.

[FriendlyDude in reply to HJam5880]

You’re welcome, I’m glad everything worked out If you need anything else, you know where to find us

I wish you the best!