Reminder for the new year.

Sometimes we get so caught up labeling ourselves as “too quiet” “too shy” “too introverted” “too needy” too much of something that tears down our self esteem. So here is a reminder for the new year

[FearIsALiar]

I’m so glad I came across this! My friend I was supposed to hang out with on NYE apparently went out and partied...she told me that her parents wouldn’t want her going out so they thought it was a good idea to just stay home. Then she goes and does that? It probably really shouldn’t upset me but I’m tired of people lying to me. I often feel like people don’t invite me because I’m “too nice” or “too pure” ...it really does hurt my feelings. I know I’m pretty introverted though. To be fair I don’t really get out much or have any TRUE friends. She will be posting stuff all on her Snapchat story yet she won’t open a snapchat message from me? :/

[Hidden in reply to FearIsALiar]

What is the reason that makes you feel like it shouldn’t affect you? 🤔 sometimes people don’t mean to be inconsiderate so I understand, but I think that’s still messed up in a way. She could have been not opening your message because she wanted to wait till a moment where she could take the time and respond to you possibly? I do feel like if you two initially had plans she should have considered telling you about it but people sometimes only look out for themselves...it’s the really sad truth we have to accept. However, once in a while we find people who look out for us just as much but idk.. they seem so rare

It sucks when people see you as “too nice” that’s the story of my life to because a lot of people take advantage of our kindness and don’t consider how they hurt us. Anymore I yearn for others that give reciprocation and that’s all I’ll accept even if that means being alone. Friendships that don’t reciprocate in a way you feel that you need are way more painful than being alone in my situation. 😞 I understand why you were hurt you had the right to be and I’m sorry NYE didn’t go as you planned. But you have the rest of the year to do and be what you want and I’ll encourage you ever step of the way!! Learning to appreciate the choices you make takes time.

[FearIsALiar in reply to Hidden]

I probably am thinking too much into it. Idk. I’ve been told I’m too sensitive before by others and I shouldn’t let those things bother me.

Also for the Snapchat thing she literally posted her at home in her room basically doing nothing..so I mean she definitely has the ability to respond. It’s just really hurtful because I’ve always thought of her as a good friend and someone I could always relate too. She has anxiety as well and when we went to highschool we would always help each other through it so I developed a bond with her! She just doesn’t care it seems. I think I just won’t hang out with her anymore. She does this all the time towards me where she doesn’t answer her messages but she will be talking to a bunch of others. Makes me feel like I don’t matter to her at all..

I agree those people are so rare...if only all the people on here could meet and be friends lol! A lot of us are similar and so sweet. I guarantee you if we met we would be best friends lol!!

People really do take advantage of the kindness we put out. I always had trouble with saying NO. Because I didn’t want to come off as mean or lazy. So I would always say yes to people even if it was something I really didn’t want to do. It definitely is more painful having friends who don’t reciprocate. I just feel like there’s so many people who are two faced. I just hope I will make good life long friends this year. I feel like I’m different than most and I don’t follow what everyone else does which is drinking and partying. I can have fun without doing that.

[Hidden in reply to FearIsALiar]

She must know you are sensitive then so I would think she’d at least give you a reason why you were left hanging but I had a best friend since elementary school who was like this. She quit responding to my messages but this was happening daily every single message I’d sent and she would say she would call me back and never did and as friends we make excuses and excuses for them because we love them! But only you know your breaking point and they always seem to come back when the one person they thought would always be there isn’t. It’s a shame.. but you will make way more amazing people in your lifetime for sure! There’s so many great kind loving and humble people for you to meet who don’t need drinking to have fun. I wish we all met one day it’s so funny because without knowing everyone in real life, we feel like we truly do know them at heart. :)🤍