Loneliness and hopelessness.

[JL74]

I am so lonely and depressed and with this pandemic and I don't know what to do.

[Tillymay]

I know how your feeling it’s so horrible.ive been up since 4am.I had a good day yesterday but today I think it’s going to be a bad one!I feel very lonely to.I have no friends to turn to but I do talk to someone on here a lot and she does help.Im always sick in the mornings.How about you does this make you sick? And knotted inside? Just don’t know what we can do? Xxx

[JL74 in reply to Tillymay]

Heart sick mostly. I don't have many friends and the ones I do have are very busy so I try not to be a bother. My therapist isn't a friend but do feel better and cared about after talking to him. These last two weeks have been awful.

[Tillymay in reply to JL74]

Bless you I keep thinking of getting a therapist.But I don’t want someone to judge me or say something horrible.As it would send me over the edge.Does therapy work for you? And how often do you have to go? If you don’t mind me asking, has something happened in the last two weeks to make you feel this way? Xx

[JL74 in reply to Tillymay]

I find therapy really does help. I go every week (virtual right now). It isn't a cure, but it models a lot of what I need in terms of having someone recognize and validate my feelings when others can't or don't. I think its just the time of the year and a very hard breakup from last year that I have spent this year trying to get over. Its at least the trigger I think.

[Tillymay in reply to JL74]

Bless you break ups are really hard! And you think you will never pull through it! But you will in time but some break ups take so long to get over.I might try therapy but I’m scared xx

[JL74 in reply to Tillymay]

Thank you, I appreciate your kind words. I can appreciate how therapy can be a scary thing. It was much later in life that I started seeking it. And only since last year (after 10 years and 3 to 4 counselors) that i finally opened up and started dealing with childhood traumas. My counselor tells me its a three pronged approach that seems to be working...education, therapy, and medication.

[Tillymay in reply to JL74]

That’s what’s so scary is opening up! I had a counsellor when I was younger but she was so horrible.I never did go back! I’m scared the things I say she will judge me! Not that I’ve done anything bad it’s just things have happened in my life that have ruined my life.But how can they make that better?its the past I can’t get over and I don’t know what to do in life to make me happy! I have no one to turn to xxx

[JL74 in reply to Tillymay]

I guesse i would say that not all counselors are like what you experienced. I don't know how to describe it, but it just works when your ready for it.

[JL74 in reply to Tillymay]

Also, and for me this is kind of nice. If I don't like my counselor, I get to fire them and find someone else.