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[bandicoot1987]

Hi all

I wrote a post a couple weeks back about having to go into hospital to have a mole removed from my neck, I was an absolute nervous wreck on the day, it was awful, I've never been so bad in my life. However that was done and my worries were gone, now on the other hand I have just received a call from the hospital saying I have to go back and talk to someone about the results.

I'm wondering why as my mum was told hers the other month over the phone, and hers tested positive for skin cancer, so this must mean that mine is worse and I have to wait until Monday.

I literally can not cope with this, I'm in such a state already and don't know what to do. I am literally freaking out xx

[langedechu]

hello! it's totally okay to worry. it happens to all of us. just know no matter what happens we're here for you and you WILL get through it. best of luck. love, lange

[Mary-intussuception in reply to langedechu]

Could you talk this through with your Mum and phone the hospital first thing tomorrow. Have your Mum with you, put the phone on speaker-phone and tell the Consultants secretary you would like to hear the results now.

Maybe they want to talk things through with you in person?

Other than that, you could phone a helpline and talk through your fears and concerns. Not sure if the cancer helplines are still open, might close 5pm ? See if you can find a helpline open till 8pm?

Has your Mum's treatment finished?

[bandicoot1987 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

She had no treatment hers wasn't bad, it was confirmed but no follow up that is what I don't understand. I may try to find a number and call because I don't think it's fair to keep someone waiting 5 days.That's why I'm convinced it's bad. I suffer with bad health anxiety so it's not doing me any favours waiting. Xx

[Mary-intussuception in reply to bandicoot1987]

Hi

Did you manage to get through to your Consultant's secretary or anyone at the hospital who could help?

A few people you could try there :

Ask for -

Outpatient Sister /Charge Nurse / Manager

Hospital Chaplain

Head of Dermatology

PA LS

Or Hospital Manager.

Just say that you,'d like your results now, over the phone. Then you can attend Monday .

Did you try any helplines?

What was your Mum's diagnosis?

I know you don't need me to tell you that no one on here can give you a diagnosis and prognosis - but if I recall correctly you said your Mum had hers removed straight away when it was small but your's grew a bit bigger over time? Could it be that they are considering offering you some follow up treatment?

Or could it be that you've seen a different doctor from your Mum's and it's just that they do things differently?

I've known times when a nurse or doctor has told me everything over the phone and answered all my questions but then, on other occasions I've had the " I'm not allowed to tell you anything over the phone" attitude and "Your appointment is soon so we'll see you in clinic . . "

There are helplines (free phone) and you talk to a nurse.

Do you want details?

By the way, I only just got notified of your new post but see it's 8 hours old. I wasn't notified that you replied to me on here either, sorry.

Not sure what's going on with this site.

I'd try some phone calls now - then start again at 8.30am.

If you don't get anyone at the hospital now at least talk to a qualified nurse today on one of more of the helplines.

xx

[FearIsALiar]

Hugs 🤗

YOU WILL BE OKAY.

Deep breaths 🌬

[Mary-intussuception]

How are you? Has everything been explained?

Don't be concerned about replying, just to say :

Thinking of You

and

here if needed x

[bandicoot1987 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

Hi, thank you for messaging, so I had my results and it's a melanoma so more surgery is required but I'm totally fine about it at the moment and have actually handled the news better than I thought I would.A few tears but on the whole just getting on with things and looking forward to Christmas. Xx

[Mary-intussuception in reply to bandicoot1987]

Yes. It's the anticipation isn't it . They could have told you that over the phone and said come in Monday to discuss it. Then you could have researched a bit and got advice from a helpline on what questions to ask.I wanted to give you the Melanoma helpline but figured you'd probably found it yourself.

The fear is always worse than the reality isn't it .

It's great that your looking forward to Christmas. Have a Merry Christmas & God Bless you through your medical care next year xx

[bandicoot1987 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

Thank you so much for your time and help. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas too xxx