Every 13th of December is a hard day

[Simplysil1970]

My mama passed away 7 years ago today. I was sitting with her when she drew her last breath. Saying I miss her is an understatement, she was my best friend and confidant. My three kids know it's a difficult day for me and my 24 year old daughter saw me dusting her urn off while crying and she said nothing to me. I feel alone with this pain. I know there are alot of people carry the same pain that i do, but maybe they have someone that would put their arms around them during their struggle. I dont have that here at my house. So I took to writing this down here because people i dont even know would say something kind and uplifting to me. I am thankful for this site. The photo is of my beautiful mama. 💖

[Hidden]

Hello. I so totally and completely understand how you are feeling. I lost my mama two years ago on December 8th. We were incredibly close. No one was with her when she passed. She had suffered a heart attack in October and was on her way to recovery when she developed pneumonia. There is not a single day that goes by that I don’t think of her. The anniversary of her passing was incredibly hard. I cried a lot and still do. Christmas isn’t the same.

Someone on this site suggested I do something, in her honour, on the anniversary. I did that and I felt good about it. Today is Sunday and was the day that I always spent visiting her. I have a very hard time each and every Sunday. However, I take my dog to an off leash park every day and that’s where I feel my connection with her. It’s a beautiful, river valley park, full of trees, birds and serenity. I hope you can do something today, to honour your mama. You’re not alone in this. I’m right here with you. 🙏🥰

[Simplysil1970 in reply to Hidden]

💖 Hi: Thank you for the lovely reply. It feels nice to know that someone cares. Sending you a hug!!

[Hidden in reply to Simplysil1970]

Hugs back and I hope you’re doing well.

[Grateful71]

Lovely picture. I know your pain my dad died a few years ago just before Christmas, it's always difficult...here's my hug to you 🤗

[Simplysil1970 in reply to Grateful71]

💖 Thank you. I appreciate the words. Hugs to you!!!

[Hidden]

Awww, she's beautiful. Nice that you loved your mom so much. I'm sure she's watching over you from heaven. And she'd want you to be happy and enjoy the holiday season even though she happened to die around this time.

[Simplysil1970 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. She was so beautiful. I talk to her all the time and I know that she would say pick yourself up and get on with it

[goldieoldie]

You have a most beautiful mama,she seems an open caring person and Im sure she does not want you to feel unhappy,and that your daughter probably couldnt find any words of comfort--when a hug would have helped--------be proud ,was she quite young when she passed...my heart goes out to you,make the most of your time ,I know my moms time was nigh and wasnt there to say goodbye when she lay in a coma for 5days-but she was 92yrs -and she would not have liked to have been a vegetable---------

[Simplysil1970 in reply to goldieoldie]

Thank you for replying. My daughter is angry with me, ever since her 30 year old brother assaulted me last month she has taken to ignoring me because I took down their baby pictures from a stand in my room. Their father (my ex-husband) just passed away in July and left them a few thousand dollars and now that I'm down and out waiting for my portion of his pension she doesn't speak to me. I gave my entire life to these people and I get nothing but hurtful glances and silence.

[Agora1]

Simplysil, I'm sorry for your loss. I do understand how you feel since I too

lost my mother on December 18th, 10 years ago. I watched my mom pass

in her hospital bed as I waited for her to come out from the anesthetic after

having successful hip surgery. She was truly the Matriarch of the family.

I feel your pain and send you a hug of condolence. xx

[Simplysil1970 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much. I too am sending you a big hug!💕

[Clarrisa]

Thank you for sharing the photo of your beautiful mother. As hard as it was for you, I am certain that your mama was greatly comforted having you by her side when she departed. One wishes those closest to them could help lend support by acknowledging this staggering loss as mama’s “angel-versary” is marked.

It seems some of the younger generation’s philosophy is if procession(s) of theirs don’t bring happiness, just get rid of them. So my niece brought her cat’s urn (among other things) over to her parent’s house. She clearly isn’t on the same page as us. However I am, I feel your pain for I have experienced my mother’s loss too. God Bless.

[Simplysil1970 in reply to Clarrisa]

Thank you for sharing. You're words mean a lot to me during this difficult time. Hugs!!!

[Hidden]

im so sorry for your loss its really hard but i n=know you can get through it , all you have to do is believe

[Simplysil1970 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I have my sparkly shoes on saying I believe. 💕