Peoples words affect some people.

I realize I was self talking. And he words I was saying to myself. We’re actually the words my past relationships told me. They defined me. And I used their words as a mantra for so long.

They would tell me things like I am not pretty, my hair is too thin, to dark, too blonde, I’m not smart enough, I’m not smart enough and more

This week I was self talking and I realized the words I have been telling myself were words I once heard from an old friend, for instance .

[Csath]

I was just thinking today about how I was judging myself with the words my dad used to tell me. I can't be happy until I lose this harsh voice...

[Hidden in reply to Csath]

I always hear my friends voice. They say I look like shit. My hair is this or that. Or I’m not smart. I’m not gonna amount to anything like them.

[Hidden in reply to Csath]

I wonder how to say stop. When I hear their words I say loudly stop thinking those thoughts. They are not my words or beliefs. But. Lol 😂 I just realized this the other day.

[Csath in reply to Hidden]

As a kind person said to me here, recognising the voice is the first step on the path. It is possible to be happy about yourself! CBT can be very helpful.

[Hidden]

Thank you I will start that