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Jekyll and Hyo


How can I be such a different person in the evenings.

As soon as I wake up the anxiety kicks in and lasts all day until about 7pm,then bam it’s gone.

Anyone else suffer like this

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I wake up with it and it lasts all day and night. I’ve been in a vicious cycle for months now. I have learned from therapy and from personal experience in the past, that it can go down at night because you’re not faced with a whole day ahead of you.

How do you get through the day

Right now, minute by minute. I honestly want to give up, but I have two children who need me. My youngest is a year and a half, so I have no choice but to function enough to take care of him. Nothing is working though. Using “distress tolerance skills” or any non-med skills (including exercise), isn’t working to bring it down.

Hidden in reply to Greenswimmer13

Someone mentioned try vitamin D3 or b12. Ask your doctor about your levels. I use 5 htp it helps some and meds from doctor.

Greenswimmer13 in reply to Hidden

I just recently saw that (5htp) as an ingredient in a calming supplement. What is it, and does it help with the anxiety?

Hidden in reply to Greenswimmer13

From webmd website

Overview Information

5-HTP (5-hydroxytryptophan) is a chemical by-product of the protein building block L-tryptophan. It is also produced commercially from the seeds of an African plant known as Griffonia simplicifolia.

It took me some time to get used to it. Be careful there are side effects with heart issues. Ask your doctor first. I get it at dollar general.

Greenswimmer13 in reply to Hidden

Okay, good to know. Thank you.

This is so terrible to have to live through. I understand that horrible anxiety feeling.☹ I read in your profile that meds are not working now. Have you been on Xanax for anxiety?

I have been on Xanax and other benzodiazepines for my anxiety in the past, but my current psychiatrist won’t prescribe me anything like that because it can be addictive. She doesn’t understand that I’m barely holding on.

I'm so sorry for that. I don't know what I would do without Xanax. And sometimes I get SOOO anxious that it barely does anything. But breathing techniques, meditation-nothing natural works for me.

I’m sorry that you struggle with it so much too. When it’s so high that anxiety meds don’t work, and nothing else is working, it’s torture. What do you do when your Xanax doesn’t work?

Honestly, I try to take more. My np has me rationed to 2 a day. Sometimes it gets so bad that I feel like my heart is going to beat through my chest. I get so afraid because I think something is going to happen.

That’s me every day at some point then there’s the sweats, tingling arms etc no let up during the day

That's absolutely AWFUL.☹ So sorry.

At least for night time, ask your doc about Trazadone. It's non-addictive and it has the side effect of drowsiness that is a drawback for daytime but a bonus for night. Very effective on anxiety.

I dm in the uk I assume Xanax is like diazepam.. I do take 5mg before bed eith magnesium which helps me sleep. I did try 5 mg 3 times a day but it wasn’t lasting long enough to get round to the next one and she said That’s the mist I could take in 1 day

But the diazepam is helping at least a little bit during the day?

I’m only allowed 1 a day at night... if I get really desperate I take a half tablet during the day. I know I should but sometimes it’s the only thing that gets me through

You need more. You can't live like that day in and day out. I think these doctors who prescribe medication need to feel what we go through, and THEN make a decision about how much we can have. I'm not looking to be on a high all the time. I JUST WANT TO FEEL NORMAL!!!😞

Oh my gosh, yes! I’ve wished that my psychiatrist could feel what I live with everyday, and then maybe she would actually prescribe me something for my anxiety. She says benzodiazepines are addictive, but like you, I’m not looking to get high, just feel normal. I feel suicidal going through this, how could anxiety meds be worse?!

How terrible.☹ You need to keep telling her that you feel.suicidal. SOMETHING has to change!!

I’m looking for a new psychiatrist because she just isn’t hearing me and has her mind made up about my treatment.

Good for you!! I have also tried over the counter things that friends recommended to me, to calm my nerves and anxiety. NOTHING worked!😣

I told my gp that I felt suicidal a few times she just told me to think of my daughter!!’I’m Not asking for the world just to be able to work and go outside on my own

I just DON'T understand that reply from her!! Can you go right outside your house on your own, on a porch, or in a yard?

I go out in my garden but struggle to go for a walk or the shop on my own

Well,at least I'm glad to know that you are able to get some fresh air and sunshine when the weather permits.

That's exactly how mine does. I feel like crap when I first get up too. I tell myself "Here we go again" Then at night it eases up some.

Whiskers16 in reply to bonkers65

How do you deal with the day

bonkers65 in reply to Whiskers16

I really don't know. I just do. I try to find something to do I guess which is hard because I really don't want to do anything.

Has it been going on for awhile for you too?

Off and on my entire life. It has gone into a kind of remission at times but it always comes back.

Same with me, but mine has been worse this year than I can ever remember.

I'm the complete opposite. Get up, all ok then as soon as it starts to get dark bam it's depression and anxiety central. Can't settle to read or watch tv and my bedroom has become a battleground. Keep telling myself nothing lasts but this is going on forever!

I know exactly how you feel about it going on forever. I keep wondering how it could possibly go on like this for months.

That’s exactly how I feel been like this since July. Have always suffered but not this bad

Me too!!! Well I've always suffered from depression and anxiety, but it wasn't until a few months ago that the panic started as soon as I got up. I work 5 days a week, and the anxiety is definitely there at work, but for some reason, when I'm off on the weekends, it attacks me the minute I open my eyes. I can't figure it out for the life of me!!

I wish I could work, been off now for over 4 months frightened I won’t get back

zenmikho in reply to Purpletara

So interesting how we are all so different. You must be a morning person. It's official name is called a Lark Chronotype. I make a comment below to Whiskers16 explain a little more. You might also enjoy this YouTube video from a sleep specialist

Hi Whiskers16, have you heard of our sleep patterns? Amazingly, some people are morning people or night people, and a select few are actually both and neither. But most people fit into either morning or night. I watched an amazing YouTube video discussion on it. So interesting. The discussion was on sleep and the patterns around sleep, conducted by a sleep specialist. Here is the link if you would like to know more, it just might explain why you are feeling anxious in the mornings. I hope this helps.

Whiskers16 in reply to zenmikho

I’ve been told it’s because some chemical builds up over night but I’ll watch this thank you


I know how you feel. I used to get horrible depression and anxiety.

Downandout123 in reply to Hidden

What has helped you?

Hidden in reply to Downandout123

I found friends who would let me be myself and a sport that has really helped me let go of anxiety

Hidden in reply to Hidden

Basically stuff to live for


So sorry you are going through this. Hugs


Feel like this all the time.

Greenswimmer13 in reply to Hidden

You mean you feel anxious all the time?

Hidden in reply to Greenswimmer13

I have said most of the time. Sorry.

Greenswimmer13 in reply to Hidden

No, not at all. I wasn’t sure if you were referring to anxiety or something else.

I am all the time

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