how do i deal with people who might have contributed to the formation of my social anxiety as they still treat me the same &we are familly

[Chajj]

any one help

[Hidden]

Your question is the same as mine. I am not sure what the answer is. I have a difficult time with my parents right now, eventually I hope it will sort itself out and I will be able to have a "normal" relationship with them. Getting more independent of troubling relations might be helpful? Making your decisions independently of them and trying not to rely on them emotionally?

[Chajj in reply to Hidden]

a lot of thanks for your reply i am new in this site it does inspires me a lot to finally have someone who do understand my weird problems and i hope gods helps us finds way out and be normal again

[Hidden in reply to Chajj]

Definitely! You are a unique person and therefore your struggles are unlike any others, but you are not alone. That is, we can be alone... together.Welcome to the site! It's a good place to find and offer sympathy and support. I hope you continue to find it helpful!

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[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

I always enjoy your responses, you can tell they come from the heart. xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

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[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Phil,

Many won’t agree, but you have to back off these people who consistently make you feel worse..

Have as little to do with them as possible..

When you do interact with them minimally, be as Nice as possible to them...

They will always be this way, and there is nothing you can do to change or improve them..

Just keep participating on this website because we all suffer from similar things as you do...

Thanks for being here...

Chris

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[FearIsALiar]

You’re not alone! I have social anxiety as well 💗

[Noquarter]

Well it is obviously family. So maybe to sit them down and say this is me. So if you want to help then please do but if not then kick rocks. Hahah. No really if they don’t understand you then they can’t judge.

[Dolphin14]

Boundaries. I've learned how to set boundaries with people. When they cross the boundaries I put a haunt on communication. It's not easy at first but stand firm. You will feel better believe me.

[Chajj]

thanks a lot guys for your support for the first time in 37 years i start to feel like a human again.i have recently discovered that whenever i was away from them with no frequent contact i kinder like feel my sense of self and freedom than when close to therm the thing is i wasnt sure i was doing the good thing or not but now im getting the point

[Agora1 in reply to Chajj]

Hi Chajj, I can understand the hurt and pain when family is the one contributing to not being

who we were meant to be. As you have seen, when you have infrequent contact, the real you comes out. We all need to find our own sense of self, love ourselves and believe in who

we are. It is important to your self esteem and confidence that you do these things. Family won't always be there so becoming independent will be something that you will fall back on.

I think you understand what I'm saying. You are at the perfect age to achieve the things you

want in life. You have life experience behind you. Go for it. The time is right xx

[Chajj in reply to Agora1]

so inspiring a lot of thanks