Heightened Anxiety

[Whiskers16]

I have suffered for years with anxiety but has always been controlled by medication. However I am dealing with severe anxiety agitated all the time that is being created by a relationship problem which I cannot sort at the moment and the medication is not helping .

Any tips please on how to try and get through this and ease the anxiety as this will help with the problem.

Please don’t say sort the relationship problem, if it was that easy I would have done it.

[bonkers65]

Try distancing yourself from the relationship for a while if you can

[Whiskers16 in reply to bonkers65]

I wish I could but we live together and it’s my insecurities that are causing the problem.

[Kat_21]

So I used to have tons of insecurities in relationships. I don't know the terms of the relationship (marriage, or just dating) but in my opinion, if you're feeling so insecure that your anxieties are getting this bad due to something they have done/are doing, it's not worth it to continue being in that relationship.

However if it's a problem regarding you worried about what could happen instead of what has happened, I recommend trying to understand exactly why you feel that way. Maybe speak to a therapist/counselor, and get to the root of the anxieties. But it's never okay to suffer for a relationship.

But maybe distancing yourself, staying with a friend or family and having some space would help calm you down. My husband works so I have alone time (with my son) during that time to sit and think through things that I worry about.

I hope things get better for you.

[Whiskers16 in reply to Kat_21]

Thank you Kat. My partner and I split last year after 20yrs he had an affair. Cut a long story short in August we got back together but the anxiety started that he will go again .some people will say I am stupid for having him back but I love him but this insecurity is ruining it because he can’t deal with my anxiety

[Kat_21 in reply to Whiskers16]

We all do crazy things when we're in love.

I'm not sure what advice I could give on that. But I do hope things get better for you. I'm here if you need a friend.

[Kat_21 in reply to Whiskers16]

Also. Remember that not only is he having to 'deal with' your anxiety and insecurities, you're having to deal with it as well. He may have to deal with the backlash, but you're the one going through it. And I think your partner should try to ynderstand that it's twice as hard on you than it is on him.

[Whiskers16 in reply to Kat_21]

Would you mind if I pm you?

[Kat_21 in reply to Whiskers16]

No I wouldn't mind at all but I may not respond for a couple hours. It's currently 4am where I am and I'm going to try and sleep now. Insomnia sucks. But I will respond as soon as I wake up!

[Whiskers16 in reply to Kat_21]

Thank you I’m in the UK so understand

[bonkers65 in reply to Whiskers16]

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I have always been insecure in my relationships too so I know how you feel.