Sometimes I just want some sympathy

[fallen_leaf]

Someone to listen and not blame me for my unhappiness or tries to give me solutions like just exercise. Just someone who listens and nods and says I’m sorry you feel that way or someone who says I get that

[Hidden]

I’m good at that, if -

You Care

To Share,

Cat

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🎁

🐾

[fallen_leaf in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I’m just sad not sure why.

[Hidden in reply to fallen_leaf]

When is the last time you didn’t feel sad ?

Is there anything that happened that led to your feeling sad ??

If not, what was the last unpleasant thing that happened before you became sad ??

Just try to answer the best that you can...

You won’t be disappointed at the insight I’m able to have. I don’t even really know how I do it. I’m not a pro or anything...

Please Share if you can, I want to try and will just listen and nod, or say I understand, but not anything stupid like you are accustomed to..

Catman

😎🐾🎁

[fallen_leaf in reply to Hidden]

I don’t know. I have major depressive disorder. I guess I’m always a little sad and then it could be a mix of things. It’s been one year since my mom passed away, my brother and sister in law seem to not like me, my ‘best friend’ never does anything with me but is always posting and doing stuff with her other best friend, the holidays always make me sad, my birthday always makes me sad, I never have energy to do what needs to be done, I’m incompatible with my husband, I get anxiety over the idea of looking for a job....

[Hidden in reply to fallen_leaf]

Okay, you have unpleasant feelings in general about most everything...

I’m really sorry about your Mom.

Were you close to her at all ???

[fallen_leaf in reply to Hidden]

Not really. She obviously favored my brother and then maybe my sister.I always felt I was a disappointment.

[Hidden in reply to fallen_leaf]

That is Incredible Painful for your Mother to favor your brother and sister over you, and to leave you feeling like you are a DISAPPOINTMENT ??

She knew you felt this way.

And did nothing to change it..

Mother’s’ aren’t always the “Heroes” we think they are supposed to be...

If I say anything wrong, please let me know. I don’t always say the right thing...

Cat

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And it is still always painful to lose your mom, even if they were a disappointment to you...

Chris

[fallen_leaf in reply to Hidden]

It’s ok. My brother is great guy and he deserves good things but that doesn’t seem to include me or my family. My father is hard to deal with and puts a lot of pressures on him and expectations.he pretty much leaves me alone most times so my sister in-law resents me and thinks I don’t do enough to help. But my husband isn’t like my brother. She doesn’t get how hard I have it. I know all this because she told my cousin.

[Hidden in reply to fallen_leaf]

It doesn’t Hurt you that your brother kind of leaves you out ???

I’m trying the best I can to understand a big situation in such a few words...

Chris

I admit, I get such a feeling of Profound sadness in you. It almost hurts just to hear it. And you have to Live It. And you wonder why you’re depressed ???

What in the situation with your brother is the most upsetting to you ??

Cat

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[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Listen to

Eternal Flame

by The Bangles -

Maybe doesn’t apply here,

but it’s so Beautiful !!!

Maybe it’ll remind you of the way you thought things would be when you were younger...

I realize I got off the subject though..

Chris

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[FearIsALiar]

I definitely understand how you’re feeling. I feel like this often as well.

[fallen_leaf]

It does bother me that my brother leaves me out especially for my girls who want to see their cousin. He always has plans so I stopped asking. He does stuff with his friends and in-laws all the time. And when my mom passed she left so much more to him than my sister or I. Maybe because he gets the brunt of my dad. I guess.

[Jane_5060]

Oh my God, I feel so bad for you. In my opinion, a sister-in-law needs to BUT-OUT or be as nice as she can. She is the last person who should be interjecting with her negative views😡, especially over your depression. I had a brother-in-law like this once and he turned part of the family against me. He said some hurtful things and I walked out on Thanksgiving dinner! My ex stood up for me at first then later acted resentful for my ruining everything. I’m so sorry your family is not helpful. Your best friend is not much better. If these people only knew how much worse they are making things for you. Many of us here DO get it! Warm thoughts for better days. You will find people who care and are genuinely sympathetic, it may take awhile but they are out there! They are here too but you need someone out there as well.💕