Working with fear and depression

[lukas01]

I have recently started working as a fabricator, the work is difficult in a way for me, especially where I am autistic, people that I work with seem ok but they do not seem to have the patience, they said that I am too slow, but I try so hard, are there any medication that is healthy and will help me function better and confidently because I am getting scared of going to work, the new challenges really scare me and I’m not sure how to look at even just thinking about going work really scares. Please help me

[Shivedita]

People judge you with their standards. But they don't know that they are not standard. It's wonderful to be yourself and keep improving at your own pace. Consider their opinions but go your own way, decide your own way. Confidence comes with time, you go as you are and just learn little by little and you will grow confident with time.

Focus on your health, remain healthy and keep intrested in your work. Right people will come to you. Let others mock!

I hope it helps!

[lukas01 in reply to Shivedita]

Thank you so much.

[Hidden]

l01,

The best way to deal with this is to just understand people.

There was a What Would You Do episode where an Autistic 18 year old was bagging groceries too slowly. They had actors pretend to be very impatient and rude to him.

Many total strangers waiting in line were angry at this and hid it well (unlike me), and were hostile to the actors that were picking on him.

Some of them them helped the Autistic bagger bag the groceries with him. They said he is doing well and the best that he can and is trying to make a living and to leave him alone !!

What I know is that they do have to wait all day long to see the 2% that do this. But that they are out there is so Heartwarming that it makes me cry every single time, even when I see the same episode so many many times.

Whenever I want to cry, I just watch Youtube What Would You Do episodes.

That I wrote this long reply shows that I am one of the 2%, and will take a beating for you, happily,..

Keep bagging, with a smile..

Cat

😿

[lukas01 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much

[sleepystudent123]

Have you looked into reasonable accommodations for your job? I also have a disability, and if you're in America, you are covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

[lukas01 in reply to sleepystudent123]

Unfortunately I am in the uk, I am waiting to be diagnosed with autism as I’m waiting for an appointment.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

It is unfortunate that you have to face that. Did you disclose the autism when you were hired? Are you missing an expected quota? If you are new to a position, it does take time to get into a rhythm.

There are anxiety meds. I don't know how they work with autism, though. Do you work out? Natural endorphins of exercise may help.

[lukas01]

I did not disclose that I have autism, I have started last month it’s just difficult for me because the boss has high expectation I’m 19 years old I just left college and got hired on my first ever job but I would never know that I would be suffering so bad to the point that I’m scared to come to work I’m really not sure what to do I’m starting to lose hope of what is going to happen in the future