Grudges

[isin13955]

My wife has this annoying habit of attacking me for something I have allegedly done, hours after the event. I have been treated for A&D for a few years and when she does this it makes me really angry and feeling like I’ve been kicked off the edge of a cliff.....again! I’m never sure whether I should just suck it up or see the doc for a meds review. It feels like a Groundhog Day, I fall of the cliff, claw my way back up just to be kicked off again. I just feel like giving up.

[Operalady]

Hi isis 13955. Yes phew I hear you! My husband attack s me too . I try hard to keep our place nice and i

Often get things to make the home better . It makes me feel good ! When my enviorment is trashed I go internally crazy. It reminds me of the pain and suffering of childhood! Can you talk to your spouse and explain in a loving way how you feel? Bottling it up is unhealthy! I feel for you I am going through similar situation! Therapy helps! Good luck dear soul of this planet!

[isin13955 in reply to Operalady]

Thank you so much for your sympathetic reply. We have been married for 32 years, believe me we have talked about it on many occasions. I am 65 and I just want it to stop, all of it.

[Operalady in reply to isin13955]

Me too!

[PixieChik731]

Hi isin13955, it sounds like a typical lack of communication and understanding situation. Have you considered possibly going to marriage counseling to help you both communicate with one another and better understand each other? Would you be open to seeing a marriage counselor? Just a thought. I know when my marriage was in trouble, we sought marriage counseling to hash out our differences and to learn to communicate more effectively with one another so that we could continue to stay married to each other.

[isin13955 in reply to PixieChik731]

Thank you for your reply. I would love to see a marriage counsellor, however my wife would not. My wife displays strong narcissist behaviour which, unfortunately, means that she believes she is always right and in no need of help.

[PixieChik731 in reply to isin13955]

Well, that's really unfortunate, and I am really sorry to hear that. Are you at least getting counseling for yourself?

[isin13955 in reply to PixieChik731]

I’ve had a couple of bad experiences with counselling so tend to give them a wide berth. In some ways I use this platform as a form of counselling. I am quite spiritual by nature, not in a religious way but philosophically. I believe that we are where we are meant to be doing what we are meant to be doing . Sometimes life can prove to be quite challenging and I confess to losing my objectivity on occasion!