Corona Ruined My Anniversary

Hey everyone. Hope you're having a good day or night or whenever you're reading this (if you even are).

So my one year anniversary with my boyfriend is Saturday, October 24th, 2020. And he and I were planning on hanging out that evening (take photos, eat dinner, cuddle on the couch in front of the television). It was going to be great. Until I got the news today that his stepsister tested positive for corona.

Even though he wasn't actually around his stepsister, he was around his other step siblings and his step mother, who were apparently around the person who tested positive. This was two days ago (Monday, October 19th, 2020). So now he has to quarantine for two weeks, which means we can't hang out on our anniversary, which absolutely sucks.

This was the one thing I have been looking forward to for the last few months. But lately, anything I get my hopes up about just gets ruined somehow. I know that is a deadly virus and that it's safer this way, but I keep asking myself "why?" Why do all of these bad things keep happening? Why can nothing good ever happen to me?

I think one of the worst parts is is that ever since he told me like 3 hours ago, he hasn't said one thing to me that shows he cares about how I'm feeling. He hasn't even asked me how I'm doing. All he's been doing is complaining about his predicament and that he thinks he ruins everything (which isn't true but whatever). And I've been trying to help him, but he keeps pushing back and making me feel like nothing I'm doing matters. I feel like I don't even matter.

I wish he would actually stop complaining about himself for five minutes and actually ask me how I'm doing. Because I am not okay. I'm really upset. My dreams have been crushed. The one light in the darkness has been diminished. What did I do to deserve this?

Anyways, if you read this whole thing, sorry to have wasted your time. Hope you're having a better day/night/whenever you're reading this than I am. Have an amazing day! Hugs and kisses!

[Agora1]

Hi Sunkissed Panda, I'm sorry your plans for your anniversary were cancelled. Remember

that was not by his Choice. You did nothing wrong to deserve this. This is called "Life".

We never know what each day may bring. I'm sure your boyfriend still cares in how you are doing but right now, he must be concerned and a little scared at where this Corona Virus

test results might take the whole family.

Try to support him through his quarantine with uplifting positive thoughts. I promise you that whatever the next 2 weeks brings, he will remember it just as much as your anniversary. He will remember you being there for him and understanding. xx

[simplydusty]

Hi Sunkissed, I'm very sorry for this predicament you're in. I know how that feels, I missed out on a lot of trips and "big dates" with my girlfriend due to Covid, so I get it.

A great quote that may help is "Life doesn't happen to you, it happens for you." Essentially, everything that happens is not a direct attack on you, but the peaks and valleys of life happen for you to grow from. It's also important to note that no one asked for the current climate we're in, so some patience for anyone (including patience for you as well!), is what is important.

As Agora said, he is most likely processing this information and the risks that are involved right now. So he may be foggy eye-d due to stress, or fear. And it makes sense that you'd feel that you're not being heard or cared about, but I'm sure that isn't the case. This is unprecedented for everyone, and that's a scary call to receive.

I think that he will soon realize how supportive you've been, and it will mean a lot to him that you were there for him when he needed it. You're doing great, don't question that. But remember you did nothing to deserve this, it is an unfortunate thing at an unfortunate time.

I hope everyone remains safe and healthy. You included. And you will have your anniversary, just maybe not on the exact date and time as expected. Keep your head up! Best wishes!

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Thank you for the uplifting message. I really appreciate it! It's hard to have to deal with such a big disappointment, especially since this is all I've been looking forward to for several months. Sometimes it feels like he makes everything about himself. I guess in the moment, I felt that instead of complaining about himself, he should at least try to offer some supportive words of wisdom or something. But we're managing through it. I'm praying that everything ends up being okay, and that we can have a little get-together sometime soon.

[simplydusty in reply to Hidden]

And you will. A day is just a day, but relationships transcend that. Everything is going to be okay. I hope he’s doing well with the sickness, and I hope you’re doing well too !

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Thank you so much! Same to you!

[Hidden]

If I think I might have corona I probably will not want to be around anyone, I’d be okay in quarantine to keep my loved ones safe. I myself be worried how bad my illness might get I do have it.

Guys don’t place that much emphasis on anniversaries like this, it was a snuggly night with dinner which you’ll have plenty of in the future.

I’d have a little patience and understanding that he might be quite scared, he’s a guy and probably won’t talk about it, his silence or lack of talking much or being 100% emotionally available to you is probably a hint.

Try not to let this instance tie into every thing here lately things are going your way, etc etc. support your boyfriend at this time.

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I have been supporting him. That's all I do. But aren't relationships supposed to be two-sided? I think I've made him pretty much all better emotionally. But I guess it's okay that I'm still crying almost constantly. It sucks when the one thing I've looked forward to for months gets flushed down the toilet in an instant.

I've been trying to look for the bright side, and I've offered some alternatives for him. He plays a lot of video games, and I used to play Minecraft several years ago. So I offered to play Minecraft with him for a couple hours on our anniversary instead. I guess that was good enough for him. I wish guys understood that small things like cuddling on the couch and eating takeout and making stupid Snapchat videos means a lot to girls. It's the little things man. And I guess I'm selfish for being upset that I've lost that on a pretty significant day to me.

Oh well I guess. I probably just need to get over it. I'm probably being over-dramatic. Anyways, hope you're having a good day. Thank you for taking the time to reach out!