Apologizing

[Spiderman99]

Does anyone else catch themselves apologize for feeling depressed or anxious when trying to talk to people or make friends? I feel like a burden to people. I know that God and me are the only thoughts that matter. I still struggle with people liking me.

[gnsbao13]

Totally! When I talk about my feelings of worry or sadness I find myself feeling guilty for bothering the people around me so I immediately apologize for making “everything about me”.

[Spiderman99 in reply to gnsbao13]

Yes, Exactly!!

[gnsbao13 in reply to Spiderman99]

I have to constantly remind myself that I am not the only one who feels how I do and it is okay to speak it out. Easier said than done. I still find myself apologizing. I am trying to break that habit and realize that the people around me are going to support me even through the “anxious and depressed” feelings

[Spiderman99 in reply to gnsbao13]

That's true.

[ElizabethUnlimited]

I've worked so hard on not apologizing for my flaws, including feeling depressed or anxious. It's a hard habit to break, and even harder to believe it in myself. On good days, I can at least try to explain how my brain functions (mostly to my husband, who has started to realize that my tears don't need "fixed.") We live in a society where we are expected to be happy all the time - that is exhausting!

[Spiderman99 in reply to ElizabethUnlimited]

Thank you. We really do

[Operalady]

Hi Spidy. Yes just the other day I apologized to a friend about living with depression. She said what can you do it is so get beyond it! Maybe acceptance. I found intense exercise helps, finding new hair cuts and clothes. Not expensive stuff can be thrift store finds. Reinventing myself! But human contact and friends you can be honest with is life afirming. Need friends! To share feelings with! To share all feelings. Hiding makes me ill. I need a lot of assurance on a lot of levels!

[Spiderman99 in reply to Operalady]

Thank you Operalady!

[Operalady]

Your not alone Spidy!

[Spiderman99 in reply to Operalady]

Thank you!