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Hi everyone,

I'd like to share my experience of feeling really low and lost and how i am so lucky that I now feel great.

A dark lonely place feeling alone lost and used that was me some months ago, I was struggling to breath everyone wanted from me and I was emptied after years of it ,I was living my life as others wanted me to I had no idea of self I didn't even know what my needs or wants were or if I had any ,I felt like a non person ,I was very numb and felt detached.

I googled and found these type of sites and what a release when I discovered I could write how it was when I couldn't tell people ,writing opened my mind and heart and the hurt came flowing out ,through these forums people suggested maybe I had issues with boundaries and that maybe counselling would be helpful, I did some reading and definitely boundaries were an issue for me I was afraid to say no cos I'd lose friends or so I thought,I signed up for on line counselling and what a revelation I found a new way of dealing with others I set simple but very effective boundaries and I discovered strengths and qualities in me that surprised me ,I started to put me first I ask me what I want and need daily and giving into these even sometimes has given me such a sense of myself that I feel like a new person whose best friend is myself ,I had forgotten the importance of self care and was just plodding along not realising how I was being so unfair to myself

I know now that I cant love or support others without loving and supporting myself ,I now have me as a friend who will never leave me or not support me and its like I'm being hugged on the inside I am feeling cosy and serene and ready to live my best life.

I will never feel guilty for having a not so good day again ,I will never close my feelings inside sharing has released my power to heal and I am very grateful to all who read and responded .

I didn't even realise how I was neglecting myself until I stepped back and looked at why I was so miserable and down, I just knew something had to change and I thought it was others were wrong for the way I was being used but it was I needed to change the way I dealt with people starting with myself and thankfully im on the way, made great progress feel really good about me and my world.

Thanks and good luck to everyone who reads this ,hope you all find solace hope and peace on your journeys and remember you are the most important person in your world cherish yourself and you will reap the benefits.

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Hi! This is such a neat and uplifting post! Thank you for sharing and congratulations on how far you've come!!!