My sisters wedding gives me anxiety

[Fatima_sh]

I hate weddings... always did and always will. If I had the choice I probably won’t even have a wedding if I get married someday, or if my family really insists I’ll have a very very very small wedding.

Now with that being said my sister is getting married soon and in a Arab culture we usually have 2 celebrations, the engagement party and the wedding and they are both so stressful. Both are usually a huge deal and hundreds of people are invited (500 people attended my uncle’s wedding 6 years ago... yeah that’s a lot), but of course due to corona we have to settle for a smaller engagement party and wedding (10 family members max),but I still find it very stressful. How am I going to get a dress, what am I going to do with my hair, what am I going to do about makeup, where are both parties going to be, is it really safe with this whole corona ordeal and I’m also at risk! These are just some of the few questions that are going through my head and I can’t shake away this anxious feeling in the bottom of my stomach.

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So agree simple small ceremony private

With all those people. Etc who wouldn't be anxious ?

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That sounds like quite an ordeal. I don’t go to weddings either anymore they are too stressful for personal reasons.

I don’t know what is usual in your traditions but maybe you could skip one of the events? Make it easier on yourself by having only one big party to attend instead of two? Being at risk for Covid is a perfectly understandable reason for you to excuse yourself from some of the events. If you are close to your sister maybe you can share your concerns with her and get her thoughts.

Best wishes.

[Fatima_sh in reply to Hidden]

Oh that is a big no no. Not attending one of those or any of them will cause a major problem and all of my sisters will most likely end up not taking to me. I obviously want to be there for my sister, but the idea of going to a wedding is just stressful.

[MrZee]

Hi Fatima_sh,

I was wondering, where is your heart in all this? It sounds like you’re highly uncomfortable with going to the wedding. So? There’s nothing wrong with that whatsoever. You’re only human. Perhaps, like me we’re only human and don’t like being in large crowds.

Years back a dear friend invited me to her wedding. It was supposed to be huge. When I RSVPd that I would not be attending, she was quite hurt. I was honest with her and said, “I don’t know anyone there.” And she replied, “But you know me...”. But let’s get real... at the ceremony and reception she’d occupied with new hubby and guests. Thus, I wished the new couple well and sent them a gift. Though they were disappointed, why should I have gone strictly on their behalf and have been absolutely highly anxiety prone miserable? I have absolutely no regrets for not going.

Is there a possibility you can pass on your sister’s wedding, or is there a familial/religious obligation? Furthermore, we are in the midst of COVID19 which is not to be taken lightly at all. Crowds at this time for spreading exposure are just way too high of a risk.

Whatever you decide to do you have my support. Listen to what you heart is telling you (and not what others tell you what you should do).

I wish you the best.

-MZ ❤️

[Fatima_sh in reply to MrZee]

Thank you so much for your thoughtful advice. I’m afraid that this is an occasion that I cannot skip no matter what. Everything you said is 100% correct though and in regards to COVID-19 we will just see what the government announces and hope for the best. ☺️

[MrZee in reply to Fatima_sh]

Ironically my brother and I are very close. We go there every year for Thanksgiving. But this year we just can’t take the risk because of COVID. Even the CDC warns against large family get togethers, especially over the Holidays. That saddens me. I mean we’ll get to do a teleconference. But it’s just not the same thing.

Well, even if you -have- to go to your sister’s wedding, just know that you’re not alone with your thoughts. And perhaps count the seconds/minutes until the occasion is over. That’s what I did years ago to cope with some of my family’s get togethers that I would dread, especially being stuck in the same room with my braggart cousins. I kept saying in my head over and over, “It will all be over soon.” And when we got to leave I felt so liberated.

[NertGert]

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