Not feeling myself

[treyjeff]

Hi everyone,

In recent days both my anxiety and depression have taken an ugly turn for the worse. I'm constantly thinking about my own mortality and death while also thinking about past mistakes I've made. I'm 21 and just got back to college and just feel hopeless and worried. I just need some words of encouragement and words of hope.

[Dana0857]

Hey,

Keep pushing forward!! And try to be forward looking at the same time. These feelings will pass. What’s helped me (I can’t say I know what you’re feeling, but I believe I’ve felt similar) is noticing those negative thoughts and just letting them pass by so I can focus on the positive. I remember days feeling so exhausted and defeated because of the magnitude of my negative thoughts but if you keep making the effort to focus on the positive, things will get better.

Good luck, you’re not alone!!

[treyjeff in reply to Dana0857]

Thank you

[pblife]

Hi treyjeff,

Anxiety leaves us feeling drained and tired. It's hard to explain to people how it makes us feel.

I have been living with anxiety and panic attacks for over 5 years now. I wanted to let you know we are here to support you. Do you know what is worrying you the most? I have had therapy with a new therapist this year and it's really helped. Two things that helped the most and got me out of a very bad patch was:

1) structuring your day. Getting up at same time and early bed at same time too.

2) restricting your worrying to only 20 mins a day. Pick your worry time. Perhaps 6pm. Outside of these 20 mins, you tell yourself that you can't worry about "insert worry here" until 6pm. Then at that time, you write down all your worries, think about them, find solutions etc. Then throw them away.

Obviously everyone is different and this may or may not be right for you. It has helped me though so I thought I'd share.

L

[treyjeff in reply to pblife]

Thank you so much

[Hidden in reply to pblife]

Absolutely agree about a more structured day. I keep telling myself that I will be in bed by such and such time and the same for getting up. Unfortunately I live with someone who doesn't want to change the hours at all. I also think joining groups or churches is a good thing. Although I know we're limited with the virus, or until that's gone. I consider myself a homebody now and am ok at staying in. Unlike when I was younger and wanted to get out a lot more. Sometimes it's just nice to settle in and watch a TV program you really like with a cuppa....maybe you think "boring"! The only thing missing is a special person....but that can wait.

[JuneVas in reply to pblife]

Thanks for those two helpful ideas pblife! I’ve already put myself on a pretty good schedule which really helps!

I’m gonna try the 20 minute one!

Thanks!

[Maxyz3]

Change your thinking to more positive thoughts! Your negativity is creating your anxiety and depression. You know the saying: How you think makes you how you feel! Get the " so what attitude"