Lost

[Landing47]

I can’t seem to make up my mind about anything. They say life is not just about finding yourself, it’s about creating who you want to be. Now how I do I do this without simply basing it on what makes other people happy? Cause that’s all I’ve been doing. Trying to please people cause I don’t know quite yet who I really am.

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Hi Landing47. I understand. I think it might help to do more on your own to get a feel for who you are. It takes time. Moving out may help. Also therapy might help and dream analysis. Good luck!

[Greendogreading]

I just want to say hi and let you know that I can relate to your post. I’m definitely a people pleaser, and completely lost as well. Any time I thought I knew what I wanted and set my mind on it, it completely backfired and I’m then I’m back feeling lost and like a total loser. In the last four years I went from working a job that I hated, but making a decent income, to quitting so I could go to school and earn my first college degree. I thought being a nurse was my calling, but I ended up dropping out of clinicals, due major panic attacks, and had a complete mental breakdown. I am on several medications to try and manage my depression and anxiety, but now I’m back to working a boring, soul sucking job that pays even less than CNA work. I just hope and pray I have a heart attack or aneurysm that takes me quickly so my family can get my life insurance money. I’ve tried so hard for so long and I’m tired.

[Hidden in reply to Greendogreading]

Sorry you’re going through this. Don’t ever let anxiety try and get the best of you. It’s tough to deal with but this makes you so much stronger! I wish I didn’t have anxiety but it gives me the ability to help others and knowing I can help one person makes me happy. Start doing what makes you happy! Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are loved and cared for ❤️

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First step i’d say is to part putting yourself first. You matter, you are loved so much and you are seen! Do you have any interests? What are your hobbies?