Hi everyone my 23 year old son has anxiety and excessive ruinmation...he is being treated with citalapram and diazapam
12 days ago he had a complete meltdown and was going to attempt suicide
I have never heard of ruinmation and hope some of you would have some advice to give
Thank you
Could it be He is chewing over his problems. and cannot let them go
BOB
Forgive me but that sounds flippant.....he has a genuine problem...I have watched my child fall apart..cry and struggle..I have had long term depression myself and know it's unfortunately all too real what he's going through
I have suffered Depression and Anxiety since 1967 on and off. Been in chronic pain since 1980 and retired in the late 80s Now seventy on Friday and still taking pain killers and AD medications. It may seem to be flippant to you although not to me, we learn to live our life with what we have and we do everything we can to move on through live and learn from experiences laid out in front of us
BOB
I think a lot of people have excessive rumination but I think some doctors just label it as depression.
Depression has been in my life for more than 30 years and anxiety joined me about 15 years ago. Suicide rode in the back of my mind and I really had a few close calls. A phone call stopped me. A friend stopped by. An email or post made me stop and rethink or just distracted me.
I often think of all the things that can go wrong when I do something. Then my depression makes me go over every single scrap of what that disaster will look like. What are the consequences of that disaster? How can I avoid the disaster? Everything goes round and round until I either do the right thing or mess up completely. I don't know if your son experiences the same so I apologize if this paragraph isn't relevant.
My daughter had a really bad episode when she talked about suicide about 3 years ago. Her friends called the police and they came and took her for treatment. She spent 4 or 5 days in the local hospital's treatment wing. Then they told her to get therapy afterwards and she went a couple of times. I don't think it helped her. We just started depending on each other more. She is 26 now.
Just be there for your son. Show him you love him. Make sure he knows you are by his side. Make sure he knows that you would do anything to help him. He can talk to you any time. Be open with him and really listen to him. You could try therapy for him but that didn't help myself or my daughter. But for others it has made a change. Do everything you can to understand him and coming here for more information is a great step. The folks on this forum are wonderful.
Hi Simon,
I ruminate about my past mistakes and the consequences of them. For me ruminating means the thoughts go around and around in my head, like repeat on a cd. My thoughts cause my anxiety to go through the roof. Not sure if this helps, but if you would like to talk more feel free to PM me.
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