Someone’s Past

[casual_nihilist]

I am unable to get a grip on the past of the woman I love. The feeling that conjures inside me drives me literally insane?

This is why I don’t want to exist. Why can’t I cope normally? She doesn’t get it and I don’t know what to say

[brokenlight]

💙

[Hidden]

Her past is always going to be there. If you can't get over it or deal with it , it's best you called it a day and remove yourself from the relationship, harsh but true. We all have skeletons in our cupboards and sometimes it's hard to deal with ourselves without having to take on the load of another's feelings. She has chosen to be with you and that should tell you all you need to know.

[Sunflowerxxxxxx]

If you want someone without a past your never going to find her we all have a past so accept hers and be happy or move on so you csn both be happy you are the one at failt here

[casual_nihilist in reply to Sunflowerxxxxxx]

lol thanks

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Hello

Most people have a past , but that is what it is the past we live in the here and now and the future

Her past no doubt was before she met you ?

You cannot keep making her feel bad for that she did not know at the time you were going to be her future

I remember when I met my husband of 26 years , I had a past , 2 kids , an ex husband , I laid it all out on the table and said this is me , if you don't want me past and all then you best go now , his reply was your past has nothing to do with me you are with me now and we have been 27 years in all

If you cannot let go of her past then I think you should let go of her because as much as you love her you can't change it and neither can she but as someone has already said to find someone without a past in this day and age would be a miracle and not sure if they exist

Maybe some therapy to see why you are struggling so much letting go , couple counselling could be another idea or just accepting her just the way she is because that is what real love is all about

Take Care x

[hypercat54]

Do you have a past too?

[Tara52]

Listen to what you say, "I am unable". You are able, people everyday get their hearts broken and move on. Yeah it hurts and it sucks but you don't have to stay stuck. No, she probably won't get it and she doesn't have to for you to move on and heal. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Get moving!😉💗

[Hidden]

If you're holding someone's past against them or can not accept them past and all then maybe you really don't love them and they aren't the one for you.