Advice

[Bears2333]

Hi guys, I’ve always struggled with social anxiety. Over the past year I’ve been diagnosed with depression and a big part of that is due to my social anxiety. It’s gotten to the point where I’ll only hangout with people I’m comfortable with and it’s usually 1 on 1. I also am a heavy marijuana user. I have been for the past three years. I want to go hangout with my friends but it’s just more comfortable to smoke and be alone at home.

This is a long post so I apologize. I often feel like I’m doing the same things every week. My ambition is so low and I just want to be happy again. Is anyone else going through something like this?

[kenster1]

hi when I was smoking in the earlier years it was with friends but the last few I became withdrawn and smoked on my own.I lost touch with friends for a while reconnected with a few but I lost years of my life due to other things so the smoking was a comfort along with alcohol but I decided things needed to change and it did.I gave up the smoking cut down drinking a lot as well travelled around the uk camping/hotels just to find myself again.volunteering helped massively just finding a purpose to get up and go.

[Bears2333 in reply to kenster1]

Do you have any tips on how to cut down smoking?

[kenster1 in reply to Bears2333]

cannabis I thought was hard going 2 days without any was difficult but I met an old friend and travelled around the highlands of Scotland climbed a mountain on the journey and I realised there and then that I was giving it up that was 08 I did smoke again twice in 09 when my mum died but never looked back since all of us are different circumstances as well but I done it without support.

[Bears2333 in reply to kenster1]

I’m sorry about you Mom. And thank you for your reply. I’ve had phases where I’m like I know I want to stop and then don’t smoke for a month and then I always go back. It’s one tough habit to break

[kenster1 in reply to Bears2333]

it sure can be tough you can do it a month would be amazing but so would a day a week any day off it is a winner.

[Bears2333 in reply to kenster1]

True that my friend! Thank you

[Hidden in reply to Bears2333]

Drop it off at my house...I’ll keep it safe for you🙏🙏😂🤣

[Hidden in reply to Bears2333]

Everyday smoker here too.

Over the years people have told me that it’s made me worse...I sobered up completely for like 15 months not one drop of alcohol...not one puff...not one bit of tobacco.

All sobering up did was make me wish I had a way to “drop the weight”

I don’t drink anymore because I feel that it sabotages my chance at peace.....

I’ll dig a whole through the earth with my fingernails before I believe that weed is detrimental to me personally.

It has to be used as a tool tho, to get your ass moving not to make your ass sit and eat cookies

[BlueSky125]

I’ve had similar issues with Social Anxiety and Depression. I think for me the key is just getting slightly out of your comfort zone everyday. If you only stay in your comfort zone you will end up being more restricted overtime. Write down a list of things that you would normally avoid doing and then rank them from ones you would avoid the least to the most. Pick at least one to do everyday and keep building on that.

[Bears2333 in reply to BlueSky125]

That is some really good advice. Thank you very much

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I have the same problem, except when I smoke or drink I can be a little more comfortable around people.

[Hollick]

Don't you worry about lung health? I'd be concerned, but SA is no laughing matter, your world really becomes small, to small.. I pray we both can overcome the social anxiety n live again. Life is short, and this too, shall pass....take care, all the best..