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[Sunflower_a]

I begged my boyfriend to take me back. He left me because I had depression. What do I do

[JCPrague]

Many people have diffficult tolerating someone with mental health problems. My wife is leaving me because of my mental health. I have depression and anxiety. I know how it feels. Unfortunately, most people who have never experienced it cannot understand it. it makes life quite difficult.

[Jules120]

Hi....I'm so sorry to say this but...you let him go.

It is hard to be okay with this loss...but I think you should be with someone who wants to be with you, no matter what circumstances you are going through. Having depression does not make you a bad person and you are good enough.

The problem with love is that we don't want to see our self worth and only see the perfection of the object of our affection. Most times...it is cover with the clouds of our own judgment of this person. The more I am in love with a person, the more perfect they are to my eyes...but no one is perfect. And the fact that your boyfriend did not have the strength to be with you in this time of need makes him less perfect to.

Just remember, he might not be ready for a relationship that has hardship in it, not everybody is. Saying words like depression scare a lot of people that do not understand about mental health. And most importantly, you are good enough and you are brave enough to tell him about it.

I am so sorry you are hurt...but no more begging...You deserve to be with someone who will want to be there to help support you emotionally and to love you no matter what...and yes, sometimes, it does exist.

Good luck and I am so sorry you had to go through this...it sucks

[EleanorRose]

I’m so sorry someone has decided to leave you for this reason. It’s unkind and I know I’d find that hard to accept.

Nobody is ‘perfect’ and everyone has their own difficulties and flaws. Equally, different people can be accepting of, and understand, different things. Mental health and depression clearly isn’t something he is able to understand. That’s not your fault, that is his personality.

However, I also know there are lots of people who would never do this and leave you for that reason but are rather capable of being understanding, accepting and loving.

It’s tough and it might be hard to get through right now - lots of tissues and chocolate and friends and whatever else you find a comfort are needed. But, in the long run, you are better off without this person.

Take care of yourself.

Eleanor Rose

[WiltedFlower]

are you sure you'd like to be with him if he doesn't support you? You're going through a rough time, and he shouldn't pretend you aren't I'm sorry you are going through this. Maybe you'd be happier in another relationship that is loving and supporting, you deserve that. he can walk away all he wants, but i'm sure you're a great person depression or not. Its just a part of who you are, and personally i don't think hes worthy of you if he doesn't see that and accept you for it. But either way it is your overall decision, and i hope that you and him can talk it out and that you get the desired result. Please take care of yourself, though. I know you are hurting, but don't let it hurt you anymore. you deserve to be happy <3

[Anij3443]

What is your therapist saying? While some believe that endings like this are bad things I am in the camp of seeing this as a great opportunity for you to work on the things that are holding you back from living the life you desire. Then, when you are stable and in a happy place with yourself you could come back to addressing this with him.

Praying for you!

[Hidden]

To be blunt let him leave, you deserve better. You deserve someone who loves you unconditionally and will support you and stand by your side and help you through your depression. Not someone who will cast you aside when it gets to be too inconvenient for them.

[Anij3443]

How are you doing???