Just asking for a friend

[PinkDamsel]

Hi, Im new here. I have anxiety and mild depression, Im just looking for ways to manage it and maybe someone to understand that this is something I can't switch on and off. I get scared explaining to the people around me because they don't understand it and think I should just deal with it and move on.

[Hidden]

That unfortunately are some people's attitudes and then you feel like you're not really being listened to or understood. I know how that goes. There's some great people on here who are really supportive. Welcome!!!☺

[PinkDamsel in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, Im trying to pull myself together but just a little overwhelmed.

[Laurennnnnnn]

Welcome!! Luckily, everyone here is SO supportive. It’s the first time I’ve had people to talk to who actually understand my struggles.

If you ever want to talk, definitely shoot me a message! 😊

[PinkDamsel in reply to Laurennnnnnn]

You're wonderful thank you

[Laurennnnnnn in reply to PinkDamsel]

Btw your profile picture is the best lol

[PinkDamsel in reply to Laurennnnnnn]

Thanks, Im still tryin figure out what it is. But that comment made me smile for the first time today. So thank you

[VDC1]

Lots of good people here. Feel free to ask whatever you like or post what’s on your mind

[Timber759164 in reply to VDC1]

Hi im new here and have been on paxil 20 plus yrs has stopped working many yrs ago. I always end up going back. Due to ineffective other meds. Right now trying celexa 10mg but am getting mad brain zaps. I was on 20 mg paxil. So im thinking maybe i need to be on 20 mg celexa. Calling dr today. Anyone else have experience with celexa. I was on lexapro 4 months and didnt have that. It just did nothing for depression.

[PinkDamsel]

Thank you

[Hidden]

Welcome! I’ve been using this site for only 1 month and it has helped me so much m - mainly as I don’t feel alone now and everyone is very supportive.

I have found that there are so many people feeling just like me and we’re all so frustrated with our anxiety & mental health and how it can control our lives.

There’s also tips from people on what they find works/helps and so when you’re feeling up to it, have a read of all the posts - I’ve found it very cathartic

[PinkDamsel in reply to Hidden]

Hello Runner, thank you first of all. Second yes, I have read some of the posts here its actually why I signed up. I figured may this will help, the anonymity and maybe just say a few kind words. Sometimes saying it face to face to people that doesn't understand have a glazed look about them and then I shut down. Again thank you for taking the time to read my post.

[Hidden]

Perhaps you need to sit down with these people who tell you to deal with and move on and explain to them that it isn't a switch! To me, it's like something that has invaided your mind and feels settled there. It's like you are hosting something that its is happy with but you are not. It's a bit like this pandemic, it starts to go away and then it rears its head again and locks you down. Never feel scared trying to explain it to people. Not everyone will understand it and others will take a while. Its like school, not everyone gets it the first time a teacher explains it and you are the teacher

[PinkDamsel in reply to Hidden]

Hello Jammie, yes I have sat down with these people to explain what my situation is. Unfortunately they are my mother in law and sister in law who then tells the rest of their family that im being difficult and calls me all kinds of name and make fun of me for expressing my thoughts. My husband is great about it and have help try to explain as well but they just think its all in my head and continues to bash me. After 13 years of that, I finally went to my doctor and explained my situation and prescribed me anti anxiety meds and something for my insomnia. 2 days ago I got the courage to take them and I went on to this website, last night my mother in law kept calling me a bitch and screaming at me and I screamed back not calling her any names or anything. Something I'm not proud of but it led me to finally create this username to this group. This problem isnt something Ive been hosting its something that was created because people like my in laws who don't understand people like me just figured its ok to ridicule and bully. So maybe its like school but instead of learning they throw rocks and call out names. Thank you for the comment

[Hidden in reply to PinkDamsel]

This is awful and must be hard for you as you can’t exactly escape your in-laws? In my experience there are some just difficult people who are too selfish to understand anyone else. Their behaviour says more about them and their unsupportive and rude ways. I don’t think you can ever win with people like that (I have a similar family member just like this) and I just don’t speak to them about anything personal anymore - I keep the relationship at arms length for the sake of my own mental health x

[PinkDamsel in reply to Hidden]

Last night was really a heart wrenching moment for me, I've never felt so low and alone. I've been very grateful for the people who have reached out and said positive things, but the feeling is still there and I still feel alone. Im scared to cry because i do have children who can't see me like that so I have to push through and smile. My parents have passed on and have no other friends or family members for support so here I am baring my all. I know its baby steps but I want to be better now. I don't want to have OCD, anxiety or depression but here i am wondering why me? What have I done? I can't concentrate and I keep fighting back tears.

[Hidden in reply to PinkDamsel]

I too had a bit of a low breakdown moment before joining this group and starting therapy (and trying a few extras like magnesium supplements and chamomile tea). I’m 6 weeks on a feeling much better.

One thing I will say is if you can cry, this is supposed to help us heal. I read some research that tears we cry from emotion contain more stress hormone (so it’s our bodies way of trying to get rid of excess stress). I too have children and I sometimes set aside some time during the day/evening to just cry and it does make me feel better - like there’s been a release of anxiety?

I also have children and I have cried occasionally in front of them recently - it was actually a good way to talk to my eldest about how it’s ok to cry and adults can cry too (she’s 7 years old though) my youngest wouldn’t be able to understand this yet.

[BetterMeToday]

Firstly, welcome to the community. It’s a huge step to reach out for help. I use meditation and deep breathing exercises among other things like medication and therapy. I hope you find the support you need here. We’re all glad to have you and we understand the struggle. Hang in there and I’m here if you need anything

[PinkDamsel in reply to BetterMeToday]

Thank you Bettermetoday, I've tried meditation and going for walks, unfortunately for me Im alone in my head and can hear every negative things that has been said about me and I get more anxious and start to cry and wonder how can people be so mean. Then I start to wonder why I can't be "normal" like some people. I was prescribed meds last week and finally got the courage to take them 2 days ago. I dont feel as anxious but I know the negativity is still there. Im not comfortable with therapy, good job for the people who are but I just can't bring myself to that point, not just yet anyway. I created this account in hopes that I can go from anonymous to in person with a therapist, I hope that makes sense. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and make yourself available.

[BetterMeToday in reply to PinkDamsel]

It takes time and work but it’s possible to be victorious. I’m not there yet but I feel like I’m having more good days lately. It looks like your motivated to make things better and that’s half the battle. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. The negative thoughts are tough but be witness to them instead of identifying them as your own. Try to let them come and go. That’s what I’ve been trying to do.

[Caap]

Exactly.......but just know that we are here for each other......and whenever u need someone to talk to.......am here

[Ljlulu]

I am new also and just decided to have a phone consult with a therapist so I don’t inadvertently “dump” my overwhelming feelings on friends or family. There are sites that work with insurance or self pay sliding scale. I had an interview on phone this morning and couldn’t believe how many feelings were pent up inside me. Felt good to be validated

[Aspetta]

Hello. Welcome! This site has helped me out already and I just found out about it today. I am a newbie too.

[PinkDamsel in reply to Aspetta]

Hello Aspetta, thank you for a warm welcome. I'm very grateful to the people who have reached out to me and yes I do find it helpful too. If I can help (I know Im new too but) please message me anytime.