Struggling

[Islandgirl15]

So 12 days ago I wrote my first post on here as I had just been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I had a few good days but then on Thursday it was my mums funeral and I have been down ever since. I also have to speak to my employer this week about returning to work. He kept me on furlough for this month as he knew about my mum. I don't feel strong enough to return to work. Maybe he will keep me on furlough or do I contact my dr to sign me off. I'm worried about my employers reaction as mental health isn't talked about much. No one understands, I think my husband thinks it's something I will just snap out of.

[BetterMeToday]

I’m so sorry about your mother, my deepest condolences. You should talk to your doctor to sign off your time away from work. I hope you can find some relief. I’m no expert on depression but I suffer as well and I was off for 8 months with crippling depression and anxiety. Your employer doesn’t need to know unless you want them to. It’s medical leave so it’s confidential. You will get through this and be stronger than ever, just hang in there and take it one day at a time.

Best wishes

[Hidden]

First of all you need to understand it in full detail. Try and pinpoint the first time you really noticed the anxiety and if theres something that triggered it. I know I got Anxiety disorder first through trauma, then it triggered A personality disorder. I was diagnosed with depression at 17 but it was actually bi polar so I had meds that werent right for bi polar until my 30's. A GP can easily make a small error that misses the main problem all along

[Anonymous798]

I’m so sorry about everything and about your mother.May she Rest In Peace. The loss of an important family member is always really, extremely hard. I understand what you are going through. When I was 7, my grandma, grandpa, my bird, my cat got hit by a car, my fish, my mouse and one of my friends all died in the same year. I was heart broken. Grief is a tremendously difficult process. It would probably be beneficial if your doctor signed you off because it might make your employer more likely to listen to you and take mental health more seriously. Based on my past experiences that has been the most helpful solution. My mental illnesses weren’t taken seriously by anyone when I was a kid until the doctor gave me a note to give to the teacher etc. Just remember that none of this is your fault. You can’t control mental illness and you didn’t choose to have it either. I hope this helps and that things get better and easier for you. Have a good day.

[reaThua9]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for everything you're going through right now. I think a doctor sign off would probably be helpful for your employer; are you seeing a counselor for help?Therapy may help not only you, but also your husband, to help him better understand and both of you communicate. You're on my heart and in my prayers.