When I read posts (usually evening) about people being lonely and sad and longing to just have someone to watch TV with...it makes me sad and I don’t even know what to say because I’m in the same boat.
That stupid saying “alone together” makes me mad.
No, WE are not.
WE (who live alone) are just alone, alone!
All of the coping skills in the world cannot substitute being free to be with other people.
I’m sick of it.
I live in U.S. and there is no end in sight. 😥
Thanks for letting me vent.
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I know how you feel. I was going nuts living alone with my dog. Hes a great dog but not much for conversation. Great listener.... anyhow, siblings and friends are married and have their own lives keeping them busy and active. My dad died of covid in april. Easter sunday. My mom got it too so we were busy tryong to deal.with that. After a month in the hospital and transitional care she cannot bear to go.back.to the house without dad. They were married over 65 years. She is living with me now.
I feel so messed up and the country is ripping itself apart. I had no idea there were so many whackos here. I watch tv and think how carefree when all those shows and commercials were made. People together, no masks, no worries. How things change. On the radio today the.hosts were talking about a need for a museum for 2020. Sure , if we survive.
Thanks. My story isnt special or unique. It sucks for millions for different reasons. The worst part is it didnt have to be this bad. Yuck. Maybe i am just burned out.
I’m so sorry to hear your dad passed away. That’s a hard thing to go through when it’s NOT a pandemic. Give yourself time to grieve.
I used to have a big, beautiful German Shepherd who helped me get through some very difficult times in my life. They don’t talk (at least in human terms) but can provide so much comfort.
I’m glad you and your mom have each other to get through this. And you have us...
For the most part, we've all been reduced to merely existing. All the extroverts are losing their grip on reality while the introverts marvel at how this situation feels like a Tuesday. All joking aside, even the professionally lonely must sometimes admit that human companionship is important. It's gotten to the point that we pick and choose who we consider important enough to break quarantine for. *By the way, consider yourself blessed if someone's willing to do that for you; it means you clearly did something right.*
The ending of a relationship, even a bad one, can be difficult on anyone. Depending on whom you ask, I may not be considered the BEST role model, decent human being or what-have-you. If you're willing to look past all that, feel free to message me. 😉
My 80 something year old mother is in the same position. We have done outside the house social distancing get togethers where we bring our own chairs, drinks, snacks, etc. It’s not the same as actual touch (hugs,etc.) but I think it really helps all of us feel less isolated. Is that possible given your circumstances?
Well my Mother died a long time ago. Dont have many friends. The ones i do have live over an hour away. Just trying to stay positive. I am getting depressed again. 😟. Thank God i have a job. Thanks
I too live in the US and feel the same way!! Maybe we are neighbors and don't know it! I live alone with my dog. I do get lonely. I am lonely. LOL. It has bee this way for quite some time.
I'm sorry you're angry. I don't live in the US, but I have heard that it's gotten bad again over there. It saddens me as well, especially since I have family over there.
I totally understand what you're going through in terms of being angry and feeling helpless. Here in the US, it feels like we're all being held hostage by fellow citizens who don't seem to care about anyone else, and aren't taking it seriously, as well as many governors who opened too soon. Please send me a PM if you ever want to talk.
I hate it!!!! So much !! They say loneliness is as damaging as smoking 5 packs of cigarettes a day. I can control whether or not I smoke but how do I fix loneliness? I can talk to people at work or go to the movies or someplace else that has a lot of people around (normally) to get my “daily fix” of human interaction but I know it’s not good enough. None of those interactions are meaningful in any real way either but it seems like everyone else is just born with the knowledge on how to make friends and get along with family
Although it may be easy to imagine that there are an obnoxious amount of people born, "naturally gifted" in the arts of socializing and "being well liked," it's probably more accurate that some people have put the time and effort into being forward with their thoughts and feelings. Some make a study of the human condition or, at the very least, the person/persons they wish to interact with and, like a chameleon, alter their appearance and behavior accordingly. Does some of that sound psychotic? You betcha! Personally, I believe the happiest people are those true to themselves, and maintain a small number of like-minded friends that genuinely appreciate them. P.S. I have no friends. I'm demanding as all hell, both of myself and those around me. It's a miracle when someone sifts through to ANYTHING good about me WHATSOEVER.
You may be right. However, when said authenticity is so intrinsically tied to how well I understand myself, how transparent can I, or really anyone, TRULY hope to be?Many people go their entire lives never truly understanding themselves.
I mean ideally, but there’s a reason there are bullies in school and whatever. Society forces you to conform to the mold and those outside of it are considered “other”
I’ve heard that people are only able to maintain 5 close relationships at a time, but I feel behind the curve having been homeschooled so I feel like the rest of the world learned these social skills in pre-k and continued to learn throughout high school.
That whole thing about the cigarettes really stuck with me, I’m a healthy person otherwise and work to be so. I eat semi-healthy LOL and get enough sleep, don’t drink or do drugs, do therapy and medication, etc but I might as well be smoking 5 packs a day because I can’t make friends 🤦🏻♀️
Thanks! And I do too! I didn’t want to look into it more to see what kind of damage it was doing to me but it would be interesting to see if it’s long term damage or if it’s like stress
I'm downright furious about this mess.
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You dont want to get me started on this US administration because I may never stop
Omg. Yes I'm aware of all this madness going on in my face. It's insane. It's really sad. I love america and I'm genuinely worried for america and humanity.
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