I’m downright angry about this COVID mess!

[SongAndSoul]

I live alone.

When I read posts (usually evening) about people being lonely and sad and longing to just have someone to watch TV with...it makes me sad and I don’t even know what to say because I’m in the same boat.

That stupid saying “alone together” makes me mad.

No, WE are not.

WE (who live alone) are just alone, alone!

All of the coping skills in the world cannot substitute being free to be with other people.

I’m sick of it.

I live in U.S. and there is no end in sight. 😥

Thanks for letting me vent.

[TailWags]

I know how you feel. I was going nuts living alone with my dog. Hes a great dog but not much for conversation. Great listener.... anyhow, siblings and friends are married and have their own lives keeping them busy and active. My dad died of covid in april. Easter sunday. My mom got it too so we were busy tryong to deal.with that. After a month in the hospital and transitional care she cannot bear to go.back.to the house without dad. They were married over 65 years. She is living with me now.

I feel so messed up and the country is ripping itself apart. I had no idea there were so many whackos here. I watch tv and think how carefree when all those shows and commercials were made. People together, no masks, no worries. How things change. On the radio today the.hosts were talking about a need for a museum for 2020. Sure , if we survive.

[SongAndSoul in reply to TailWags]

I had to chuckle about your comment about your dog....not much for conversation. 🤣

I am SO SORRY to hear about your Dad and your Mom!

My heart aches for you and her.

I’m glad you have each other.

I’m wearing my mask.

[TailWags in reply to SongAndSoul]

Thanks. My story isnt special or unique. It sucks for millions for different reasons. The worst part is it didnt have to be this bad. Yuck. Maybe i am just burned out.

[Hummingbirdfeeder in reply to TailWags]

I’m so sorry to hear your dad passed away. That’s a hard thing to go through when it’s NOT a pandemic. Give yourself time to grieve.

I used to have a big, beautiful German Shepherd who helped me get through some very difficult times in my life. They don’t talk (at least in human terms) but can provide so much comfort.

I’m glad you and your mom have each other to get through this. And you have us...

I’m wearing my mask, too.

[SongAndSoul in reply to Hummingbirdfeeder]

Thank you so much! **cyber hug** 🤗

[enigmaticide]

For the most part, we've all been reduced to merely existing. All the extroverts are losing their grip on reality while the introverts marvel at how this situation feels like a Tuesday. All joking aside, even the professionally lonely must sometimes admit that human companionship is important. It's gotten to the point that we pick and choose who we consider important enough to break quarantine for. *By the way, consider yourself blessed if someone's willing to do that for you; it means you clearly did something right.*

[SongAndSoul in reply to enigmaticide]

Thanks for the chuckle.

I’m actually an introvert.

However, I left a psychologically abusive relationship 6 weeks ago.

That bond was strong and I did it during COVID.

It would be better for me to be around people now.

[enigmaticide in reply to SongAndSoul]

The ending of a relationship, even a bad one, can be difficult on anyone. Depending on whom you ask, I may not be considered the BEST role model, decent human being or what-have-you. If you're willing to look past all that, feel free to message me. 😉

[SongAndSoul in reply to enigmaticide]

Thank you so much!

[Hummingbirdfeeder]

I get it.

Being quarantined alone really stinks.

My 80 something year old mother is in the same position. We have done outside the house social distancing get togethers where we bring our own chairs, drinks, snacks, etc. It’s not the same as actual touch (hugs,etc.) but I think it really helps all of us feel less isolated. Is that possible given your circumstances?

[notsureabtlife in reply to Hummingbirdfeeder]

Well my Mother died a long time ago. Dont have many friends. The ones i do have live over an hour away. Just trying to stay positive. I am getting depressed again. 😟. Thank God i have a job. Thanks

[notsureabtlife]

Hi SongandSoul,

I too live in the US and feel the same way!! Maybe we are neighbors and don't know it! I live alone with my dog. I do get lonely. I am lonely. LOL. It has bee this way for quite some time.

Hope you stay safe

Thanks,

Notsureabtlife

[SongAndSoul in reply to notsureabtlife]

Hi. I just moved to the High Desert.

Where abouts in Cali are you?

We can be friends! 🌻

[notsureabtlife in reply to SongAndSoul]

Oh i am in New Jersey. 😦

[Hidden]

I'm sorry you're angry. I don't live in the US, but I have heard that it's gotten bad again over there. It saddens me as well, especially since I have family over there.

[SongAndSoul in reply to Hidden]

Yes....we’re closing up again. 😞

[Ramon123]

I totally understand what you're going through in terms of being angry and feeling helpless. Here in the US, it feels like we're all being held hostage by fellow citizens who don't seem to care about anyone else, and aren't taking it seriously, as well as many governors who opened too soon. Please send me a PM if you ever want to talk.

[SongAndSoul in reply to Ramon123]

Thank you so much !! 🤗

[SunIsShining]

I hate it!!!! So much !! They say loneliness is as damaging as smoking 5 packs of cigarettes a day. I can control whether or not I smoke but how do I fix loneliness? I can talk to people at work or go to the movies or someplace else that has a lot of people around (normally) to get my “daily fix” of human interaction but I know it’s not good enough. None of those interactions are meaningful in any real way either but it seems like everyone else is just born with the knowledge on how to make friends and get along with family

[enigmaticide in reply to SunIsShining]

Although it may be easy to imagine that there are an obnoxious amount of people born, "naturally gifted" in the arts of socializing and "being well liked," it's probably more accurate that some people have put the time and effort into being forward with their thoughts and feelings. Some make a study of the human condition or, at the very least, the person/persons they wish to interact with and, like a chameleon, alter their appearance and behavior accordingly. Does some of that sound psychotic? You betcha! Personally, I believe the happiest people are those true to themselves, and maintain a small number of like-minded friends that genuinely appreciate them. P.S. I have no friends. I'm demanding as all hell, both of myself and those around me. It's a miracle when someone sifts through to ANYTHING good about me WHATSOEVER.

[SongAndSoul in reply to enigmaticide]

Isn’t what’s good about you the fact that you are AUTHENTIC?

[enigmaticide in reply to SongAndSoul]

You may be right. However, when said authenticity is so intrinsically tied to how well I understand myself, how transparent can I, or really anyone, TRULY hope to be?Many people go their entire lives never truly understanding themselves.

[SongAndSoul in reply to enigmaticide]

I know this about myself....I would feel very strange *not* being authentic.

It’s true that I grow and change, but if I have to “act” a certain way it is rare because I just don’t feel comfortable living in that world?

I’m the antithesis of my Sister, the Soccor Mom.

She’s never lonely.

Happy? I don’t know.

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to SongAndSoul]

To thine own self be true.

[SongAndSoul in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Love that...always!

[SunIsShining in reply to enigmaticide]

And so many people are slowed down trying to discover themselves because making themselves vulnerable and it’s not a safe world to be vulnerable in

[SunIsShining in reply to SongAndSoul]

I mean ideally, but there’s a reason there are bullies in school and whatever. Society forces you to conform to the mold and those outside of it are considered “other”

[SunIsShining in reply to enigmaticide]

I’ve heard that people are only able to maintain 5 close relationships at a time, but I feel behind the curve having been homeschooled so I feel like the rest of the world learned these social skills in pre-k and continued to learn throughout high school.

[SongAndSoul in reply to SunIsShining]

Oh, sun is shining...I feel for you.

I struggle the same way.

[SunIsShining in reply to SongAndSoul]

That whole thing about the cigarettes really stuck with me, I’m a healthy person otherwise and work to be so. I eat semi-healthy LOL and get enough sleep, don’t drink or do drugs, do therapy and medication, etc but I might as well be smoking 5 packs a day because I can’t make friends 🤦🏻‍♀️

[SongAndSoul in reply to SunIsShining]

Yes, I had never heard that before.

I hope it’s reversible if we become less lonely.

Feel free to message me any time, 🌻

[SunIsShining in reply to SongAndSoul]

Thanks! And I do too! I didn’t want to look into it more to see what kind of damage it was doing to me but it would be interesting to see if it’s long term damage or if it’s like stress

[Hidden]

I'm downright furious about this mess.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

You dont want to get me started on this US administration because I may never stop

[SongAndSoul in reply to Hidden]

No.....I understand!

It’s painful to be “aware.”

[Hidden in reply to SongAndSoul]

Omg. Yes I'm aware of all this madness going on in my face. It's insane. It's really sad. I love america and I'm genuinely worried for america and humanity.