Can't cope

[Tracey2968]

I can't cope,my daughter has multiple personality disorder, she was finally diagnosed in January and has been referred but as we've got this virus situation,it's a case of waiting.she self harms,her arms are so scarred she's now cutting her legs.i suffer with anxiety/depression myself and I feel like I'm cracking up,my daughter has so many different moods,it's so hard.since seeing the psychiatrist she is more open but when I try and delve a bit more, she just clamsbeen deemed a danger to herself due to the self harm etc,so far this Yr, she's been in hospital twice and in May she attempted suicide again,thankfully it didn't happen.im on my own dealing with this, my ex is just useless and has no understanding of mental health.im on edge,feel suffocated, my whole life revolves around my daughter, that prob sounds really selfish and its not meant to,nothing makes her happy,nothing I do or give her makes her happy,so much more to all of this, just wondering if anyone has or is in a similar situation

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Bless you I've suffered myself with my own MH but you can only do what you can and keep asking for help if she is a young girl can you get respite from social services?,if a older girl woman once somebody reaches a certain age you can only support them but you have to live your own life and if they hurt themselves it is not your doing xx

[GodKid]

I will pray for you and your daughter. It sounds like you need to take care of *yourself.* Social services does sound like a good idea, plus therapy for you! Also, she may do well in a Twelve Step group like Emotions Anonymous where she will get helped by people who have the same issues that she does. Hope this helps and may God bless both of you!

[leftbehind]

I can sympathize. My daughter is 44 yrs. I raised her as a single mother which makes us very close...she has a terrible temper and has verbally attacked me accusing me of bizarre thoughts about her...I hate her, I think she is a failure, etc. Do not think this at all about her. The more I try to make friends again, the more she attacks. Then she texts me all the mental disorders I have! I have read a book called Stop Walking on Eggshells, about narcisism. She has just text me her new phone number and not to call unless it's an emergency. She is the only one left in my extended family oh, so this is very heartbreaking that I have to let go of her. It's the worst so that's why I understand that how hard it is to deal with a child who is so difficult. I don't know how old your daughter is, mine is old enough to take care of herself which she does do. She has always been very negative on herself and had bad temper tantrums, is a very talented and determined person. in my case I'm just going to bow out which is breaking my heart because now I am all alone and she was or is? the love of my life.

Have had some counseling regarding this and I'm going to seek more counseling. I can recommend a YouTube life coach I listen to about narcissism, Lisa Romano. I don't know if this has anything to do with your daughter but she seems like she is seeking attention and when she gets it she rejects it and is down on herself. My daughter inside feels very insecure, I don't know why as she is so capable, and she takes it out on me accusing me of thinking she's no good and somehow it's my fault. I had an older sister who had a similar personality disorder and wreaked havoc on the family. You need to get some counseling so that you are not blaming yourself and feeling guilty over your daughter's self-destructive behaviors. I hope I haven't going overboard that wanted to share that you are not alone and it's the most awful hardest thing do deal with a child who defies you and all your efforts to help them.

[Tracey2968 in reply to leftbehind]

Hello and thank you for replying.my daughter is 17 so still very young.her mental health started going down hill when she started secondary school and has just deteriorated but what a struggle to get a diagnosis,just felt we got over looked etc.the situation wasn't helped as she refused help and wouldn't open up.ive been struggling with my own mental health which I'm on medication for,it's not easy, I feel like nothing I do for her is appreciated, she says when she's being nasty she doesn't mean it,but it still hurts and dealing with someone with such complex issues does have an effect on my own mental health.we did have a social worker but as long as she's safe,they are happy.now we are just waiting for app from clinic.