Lost

[steveneedhelp]

I’m 28 years old and I feel like I’ve lost my light to live. I’m a father but I feel like they don’t need me. I’m in a relationship but she doesn’t really care about me. I’m so scattered with everything that’s going on. I know I’m not making any sense I just want to feel whole again.

[usedtobesmiley]

Hi. I think I understand how you're feeling. I have similar moments. And I think you're making perfect sense. This past Saturday night I truly felt there was no reason to continue feeling this way... what's the purpose of life? My work is really stressful and even though there are people that "love" me in my life, the loneliness just seems to be increasing and I feel more detached from people and alone than I've ever felt before.

But Steve (needhelp), trust that your children do need you. And maybe keep it simple and just play with them. With everything going on in our world right now, I feel confident to say that your children could use all the innocent fun I am sure you can provide them. And I think play might make you feel better too. Laughing and smiling is contagious and opportunities that give me those usually has me feeling a lot better for at least a few days at a time.

Sending you a virtual hug.

[CedarwoodRoad]

You matter to those kids, whether you feel like it or not. They need a father. Just show them love, do your best in that way. If they're old enough, you can explain to them that sometimes daddy feels sad and it's hard for him to play with them when that happens, but that you love them very much. Depression and anxiety suck, it's very hard to feel the light when you're in a dark place. But it's there. No matter how tiny.

Do you have access to therapy? It could help you have tools to manage the tough days. I don't always feel like using my tools when I'm in a bad place, but they're there, and usually, eventually I can latch onto one that will work and it will pull me out of the worst of it.

The most important thing to remember is that your life does matter. You don't want to leave your children with a legacy of absence or suicide.

[Hidden]

I’m dating someone that feels very similarly to you. I show him constant support and love but he feels unworthy of me and is disappointed in himself for not being able to love me the ways I deserve due to his depression.

He‘s going through a divorce and feels like his kids don’t need him and also left a job but fails like failed there as well.

Your kids absolutely need you. You are worthy.

[Shimmer93]

I know how you are feeling. I am also a parent and some days I feel as if my child does not me as well. But that is not true. Our children need us and love us. Sometimes I think we just need to be reminded of that. I just have to tell myself everyday that I am worthy and my child needs me even if I do not think that she does.

[froggymom88]

Hi Steveneedhelp! Just remember that feelings are often not a true picture of the truth. Children always need their parents,even when they get older. If they are not completely relying on you, that is a good thing. It means they are becoming independent as they should. Let them know you are always there for them. Maybe sit down with this person you are in a relationship with and let her know what you are feeling and what you like from the relationship. Communication is always key in a good relationship. Hang in there because you are special and one of a kind.